Lone Wolf vs The daily challenges of life...

On a daily basis, I must deal with the struggles of life whether I want to do so or not. Some days are easier than others. Some matters must take priorities over others. But, in the end, some things will sometimes be out of your ability to control or resolve for that day or ever. A person with a lone wolf mentality must comes to terms with the latter sentence, including me.

How do I deal with the fact that I am sometimes not the
"Master of my Universe"? Well, I've been saying a mantra that seems to get me through those uncontrollable situations or times, "... It is what it is..."  This is as simple as a mantra that I can give myself to get through those days where I am about to feel overwhelmed with worry over something personal, work-related, or even financial. Otherwise, I would just give up on everything and let everything that have ever gained in life just slip away. This is not the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

I seem to be a person that is emotionally driven when facing a challenge in my life. The greater the challenge that I am facing for my situation, the more I seem to become more motivated to get through that situation. What's funny to me is that a lot of these struggles in life can usually be attributed to me causing them. So, of course, I will have to be the one to figure out a way to get through my "screw ups". I just hate to admit to myself when I must come to terms with myself when I cannot solve my own problems and must leave it to others to help me with my problems. I think I feel this way cause I fear how others will think of me for not being about to solve me own problems. Silly, I know. But, I can't help how I feel. This is one of the side effects of being a person of a lone wolf mentality: I fear the chance that someone that you have helped in the past won't come back to return the favour.  So, I choose not to even ask a friend for assistance in thinking that they will disappointment me in not helping me in my time of need. This has been my lone wolf way.

But, in perspective, if I didn't have these challenges in life to face, I wouldn't know what I am capable of accomplishing on my own without others helping me. Everyone experiences life's "ups and downs" on a daily basis. As much as it pains me, I have things in my life that I hate dealing with and having to depends on others for assistance. But, "It is what it is." A person with a lone wolf mentality must accept that fact and move on with their life. This is my lone wolf way...

Lone Wolf vs Relationships with family members and friends...

Relationship: the mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, people, etc.

     When it comes to personal relationships, I don't do well with them. I must have been living alone for so long that the thought of being in either a committed or meaningful relationship with anyone is not an option to me at this stage of my life. In general, I do love people as a whole. But, I don't just feel the need to talk or hang out with my family members or friends on a daily basis is necessary. This comes from the mentality that time seems irrelevant to me. Meaning, whether if it has been at least a day to six months to a year, I enjoy talking with the family members and friends that just pick up where we last left off during the last communications instead of having me to explain to them why I haven't spoken to them sooner. This is the mentality of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

     A person with a lone wolf mentality don't feel the need to justify how they choose to live their life to anyone for any reason. To a person with a lone wolf mentality, their most trusted family members and friends understand and respect our decisions to do or not do something without having to explain or justify those decisions that we've made. So, by nature, a lone wolf don't have issues with being people, we just feel more serene when we choose to be alone when we feel like being alone. This is our lone wolf way.

I may have mentioned in the past that I have been called "stubborn" for having this mentality. And, I still see differently. The word "stubborn"  is mainly used by those that just don't understand nor respect our decision to want to be left alone from time to time. Unless a lone wolf meets someone that doesn't make them feel like being around or communicating with them on a daily basis, the lone wolf will eventually become less and less interested in talking or hanging out with that person that cannot seem "to leave them alone" on a daily (or even a weekly) basis. I can't really explain why I feel this way about myself. I just do. This is my lone wolf way.

I've know I may haven even upset a lot of family members and friends with this need to be alone or not called as much as they may have wanted to call me. But, I rather be honest with my feelings than keep these "frame of mind" to myself. This is my life. I only have the one to live. So, I choose to live this life to my pursuit of happiness. For example, after a long day of work, I enjoy relaxing at my place with my pet dog. If not that, I also enjoy going to the gym to workout alone while listening to my music. And, if not that, I enjoy bowling. All of these things that I choose to do alone is very therapeutic to me in mind, body, and spirit. This is my lone wolf way.

I love my family members and friends. I can't deny that fact. But, when my family members and friends either give people that I don't know in our group setting my real name, or they tell others what I do for a career choice, it puts me in an immediate frame of mind to not want to interact with anyone much longer that I need to be. I will even begin to start shutting down with others the longer I stay in that type of environment, because I don't feel that their family members or friends don't need to know my real name or profession. This is why I am not the kind of person that like to attend house parties or certain family gatherings where my real name (instead of my nickname) or profession is broad casted out to those whom I see no need to know this information about me. The less people that know my real name or the profession that I currently work, the more I can enjoy the moment with others. This is just the way I feel as a person with a lone wolf mentality.

If you see by now, I don't see myself ever being married or even engaged with someone special in the near future. If I do find someone to share my life with, that woman must be of the same kinship in mentality and spirit with each other for this ever occur. And, I don't see that happening in my life at this time. And, I am okay with this possible outcome of the relationship part of my life. I once had a coworker ask me do I ever worry about dying alone due to me not being married. And, I responded with a simple, "No." The coworker then threw that Bible in my face about the need to be married to someone. In my mind I was saying, "I don't see a God that would not allow me into Heaven because I choose to not be married." Mind you, this person was single them self while they were trying to get me to think about marrying someone. How moronic and disrespectful to judge and try to do such a thing. I rather be single and happy than married and miserable. This is my lone wolf mentality.

A person with a lone wolf mentality also goes by the saying, "... It is what it is..." And, if I happen to be alone at the end of my lifespan, then "it will be what it is" when it is all said and done with my life. And, I will be okay with that outcome of my life. I have no regrets with my life. If I've ever hurt anyone due to anything on my part, then I apologise. And, I already forgiven those that I done wrong to me. Life is too short to hold grudges with anyone. So, I have chosen to just not hang out or further communicate with those that I feel will be or is a negative part of my life. This is my lone wolf mentality.

So, in closing, I just wanted to let others know that I do love people as a whole. I just find myself even more content living a lot of my "free time" alone. I enjoy the special moments with my family members. And, I attempt to make the most of the few occasions that I get to spend with my close friends. I just don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone during the times that I don't feel like being around anyone. It's really irrelevant whether anyone wants to understand or respect this part of me. Just like I can respect my family members and friends when they don't want to be around or talk to me whenever that they choose to do so. So, I need them either respect me; or let me be because I don't have to explain my need to be alone at times. The same goes for why I am not currently in a relationship. "It is what it is" when it comes to that part of my life. This is my lone wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs Anxiety...

Anxiety: an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension, and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one's capacity to cope with it.

There isn't a day that I don't feel alone in the world. And, when I say that I feel "alone", I don't mean in a "lonely" way. When I am referring to myself as feeling "alone", I am talking about the feeling that nothing will ever be accomplished in my life, whether it be personal or work, unless I" find a way to motivate myself into doing whatever the objective or mission that needs to be done. A typical day begins with me having to motivate myself to getting out of bed in order to begin the day. Then, I must then motivate myself to getting myself ready to clean myself up and get dressed in order to continue through the day. Then, I must find a way to stay motivated to see my way through whatever issues that I may have to encounter and/or resolve in order to make it through the end of the day. And, then, I must be able to motivate myself to finally allow myself return to my bed in order to rest up for another day. Most of the time, it takes my dog to bark enough times to let me know that it is time for "us" to got to bed. And, of course, I head to me bedroom, in order to cease my dog from barking. Dang dog. This has been my lone wolf way since 1997. 

I say all of this not to sound like I have any problems with the way I have been currently living my life. I am just saying that some days are more easier to motivate myself to get out of bed than others. Today, I was suppose to attend my 40 year high school reunion banquet. I began feeling my blood pressure rising, my ear beginning to ache, and my head beginning to hurt as the time to began getting myself dressed to go to this event was nearing. I finally got to the point where I knew why I was feeling this way as the deadline for me to get dressed was nearing: I really didn't want to go to my 40 year class reunion banquet. I got out of my chair only to walk my dog, then feed my dog, then made myself something to eat, and I finally returned to my chair in order to attempt to reduce my blood pressure. I began taking some supplements and finally a blood pressure pill in order to reduce my blood pressure that was steadily climbing by the minute today. Once I saw the 5:00 p.m. for my deadline to dress had passed, I began to feel the aching in my ear and headaches reducing. I feel bad that I won't be making the high school reunion event; yet, health wise, I seem to be coming down from my "anxiety" moment. A person with a lone wolf mentality shouldn't be having any type of anxiety moment.  But, here I am with one.

As you know, a person with a lone wolf mentality, is not a social person by nature. But, we do manage to find the strength such social event when needed to do so. I should never have to feel like having to do anything during my personal time. I should never feel "stressed" for not wanting to attend any event during my personal time. And, I shouldn't have to feel "guilty" for not living up to others expectations of me during my personal time. I enjoy life. I enjoy living life. I also enjoy what life has to offer me. I just want to be able to live my life the way that I want to live it. Anxiety isn't suppose to be a part of my life; and, I have been recently working on ways to improve my health (again) in order to get a better handle on my anxiety issues. I'll get through this anxiety issue. I know that I will get through this anxiety issue. This is my lone wolf way.

I'm tired now. But, I am feeling better. So, I'm going to go and relax now in order to get through the rest of this day. A person with a lone wolf mentality usually knows when to stop and rest in order to heal. So, this is me needing to stop and rest in order to heal. I'll be glad when this latest health issue is behind me...

Lone Wolf vs Unnecessary drama...

Drama: Drama is when people bring about unnecessary hardships in their own and/or others lives. People with drama are usually immature and their personalities are seriously lacking in regards to the respect of others. 

A person with a lone wolf mentality is generally not a socialite by nature. But, we tend to adapt to our surroundings, whenever needed. Lone wolves must be willing to also walk amongst society in order to survive. That is a fact. Don't get me wrong. I enjoy being people whenever I need to be. Yet, I am more happier when I am all by myself. This is my lone wolf way. 

At times, I catch myself looking at the people that I am around and wonder why people tend to want to keep some type of drama on purpose in their life. I tend to not understand why there are people in this world that choose to want to more of a pain others than they really need to be. A lot of times I rather enjoy doing something on my own than having to deal with anyone that rather attempt to make the event more about themselves than about the group as a whole. With that being said, I am not anti-social. I am really quite the opposite. I enjoy interacting with people; but, I just choose to find as much "me time" as I can possibly obtain. "Me time" is my sanctuary away from the unnecessary drama and insanity of the world. This is my lone wolf way. 

I never want to be a potential contributor to any ones' self-fulfilling drama. There is nothing wrong with venting with someone that you trust. that's what friends do for one another. But, a person with a lone wolf mentality have to be really cautious with those they may choose to confide their innermost problems and/or issues. Regardless, a person with a lone wolf mentality will never be known a person "with drama".  Drama is something negative; and, I am not about the negativity in my life. 

A person with a lone wolf mentality tends to stay away from unnecessary drama. There is nothing to be gained from allowing unnecessary drama into their lives. I've stayed away from relationships, at the drop of a hat, if I met a woman that seemed to want to keep some type of unnecessary drama in their life. I let go of friends with unnecessary drama in their lives even faster. And, any associates with unnecessary drama in their lives don't even have my cell phone number; or, I don't answer their texts or phone calls.  

Am I wrong for having this type of mentality when it comes to unnecessary drama. Well, get over it because deep down inside you know that I am right about this subject. If you enjoy hanging out with people that choose to keep unnecessary drama in their lives, then you have to search deep inside of yourself to find out why. Do you see your life being so insignificant that you have to keep people with that type of drama around you? Are you afraid of hurting their feelings if you remove these type of people from your life? Or, do you think you can somehow attempt to help these type of people through their unnecessary drama? If you answer "yes"  to any of these questions, then you fail to realise that you are also a person that have "unnecessary drama" in your life.  

A person with a lone wolf mentality should rather choose to face the wilderness alone in the blistering cold than to hang out with anyone that feel like they must have unnecessary drama in their own life. This is my lone wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs History...

History (noun):  the whole series of past events connected with someone or something

I don't know how many lives that I will live. I don't don't really know if anyone can know that information. the question that should be better asked, "Would I want to know what history is ever going to say about my existence?" And, my answer would simple be, "No."

A person with a lone wolf mentality doesn't see the need to measure time during their existence, when you are talking about ones own life span. I learnt from my past predecessors and my own mistakes. I live for the present. And, I strive to live a very happy future. This is my lone wolf way.

I have not been taking care of myself lately as in earlier months of this year. I can only blame myself for my current health status. But, I hope to improve my health status within the next week. I have no other choice but to do so. A person with a lone wolf mentality must first sustained one's own life in order to be able to leave any type of legacy for the future. At this time I don't believe I have done too many things to have left such a legacy yet; but, I would like to think that if I do leave this world before I accomplish that goal, I would hope that I have currently done enough selfless acts during my lifetime to have still left some type of positive impression in someone's life. And, if so, that be a peaceful blessing to me when I am physically no longer of this world. This is my lone wolf way.

A person with a lone wolf mentality shouldn't obsess over the little things. We shouldn't even obsess over the things that we can't control. A person with a lone wolf mentality shouldn't not also add to any of the drama that may currently exist in this world. Either we exist to be of a positive nature in this world, we attempt to live away from the society of this world, or their are some that choose to do both. Anybody that reports to have a lone wolf mentality that participates in any acts of a negative nature or becomes a public menace to society are not in the true sense of the word, a "lone wolf". Those lone wolves that choose to wrong or harm others should better be seen as "rouges" amongst our kind of lone wolves. History will be able to display  the deeds of anyones' action. This is the mindset of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

I feel blessed to be living the life that I have placed myself. It's not a perfect life; yet, I am content with it. I don't see myself ever getting married or having any children. And, I'm okay with that realization also. I only have the one life to live. So, I will continue to live my life as I see fit. and, with that knowledge of my resolve, I am content. I'll can't worry about what history may ever say about my existence. During the meanwhile, I shall continue to journey on with the rest of my life. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

Does "inner-self" helps a person with a lone wolf mentality?

Inner-self (noun): a person's true or internal mind, soul, or nature.

As stated many of times to people, I am a loner in heart and soul. I find myself at time being difficult about sharing my feelings with others. Yet, I am honest about my shortcomings as a person with a lone wolf mentality.  I find it very easy to have embraced my "inner-self" this past year. I love relying on my inner-self because, when it really comes down to wanting to obtain the things that strive for in life, it will usually come down to me making it happen for myself. and, if one doesn't trust their own-self, then how one be able to rely on their instincts for guidance through their situations in life. This inner-self trait should be apart of every person that has the mentality of a lone wolf mentality. 

Let me know if you ever heard this story in your personal life: You have always been there for people whether it was loaning a friend some money through a rough time, helping them through a tough or sticky situation that was occurring in their life, or something along that line of being that "friend in need". But, when it comes to you needing a friend to return that favour or pay you back the money you have loaned them  when you needed it back, they somehow find it easy to let you down. Yet, you still have to find a way to now get yourself through that rough patch or needed situation. Developing an inner-self and not cracking under the weight of whatever problem that you may be enduring is a good trait to possess. I can't say that I am a "master" of my inner-self. I just managed to develop a consistent way to make the necessary adjustments and/or sacrifices in my life in order to be able to find my way through that "long tunnel" or situation. When a person has the mentality of a lone wolf, that person can be able to obtain and maximise their inner-self. Inner-self is a sure way to survive through these current days of uncertainty in one's life.  

Having the ability to rely on oneself to get through a situation, also must work on the other side of knowing when to allow others into your trust to also help you get through a situation. Until I learn to be more comfortable with this part of inner-self, I will still be a long way from mastering this trait. All I can do is be patient and hope that one day I can be as trusting of others with helping me through a situation as I can easily breath air. I need to learn how to apply my inner-self to aide me with my family, friendships, and work environments or I will never be able to relieve the "weight of the world" feelings off my shoulders. The mentality of a person with a lone wolf mentality is simple: "When there is you, there is a way..." We don't make excuses for our shortcomings, we don't mistreat others, and we don't allow other to over-abuse our kindness. Inner-self help regulate my internal mind, soul, and nature. I have not made it this far without relying on my inner-self. But, I also know that I would not have made this far in life without trusting others. Hence, a person with a lone wolf mentality must continue to rely on their inner-self in order to be able keep their mind, body and spirit in harmony in their daily life experiences. I shall continue to strive to make inner-self a part my lone wolf way...

The Lone Wolf vs Realism vs Unorthodox

Realism: the general attempt to depict subjects truthfully.

Unorthodox: not conforming to rules, traditions, or modes of conduct, as of a doctrine, religion, or philosophy; not orthodox.

Today, I was watching a movie of a stage play called, "Passing Strange"where a young man went out in the world in order to find himself through the artistry of music. But, in the end, this young man failed to see that he really didn't need to leave his neighbourhood and the love of his family and friends in order to find his true self.

I have the spirit of a loner. But, overall, in my heart, I love my family (even the ones that don't get me or gets on my nerves a lot). I left my neighbourhood to find myself. Yet, I never forgot where I came from. I am not as sociable person, as I used to be these days; but, I still keep in touch with those that I respect mutually. And, whenever possible, I attempt to "keep it real" with those that keeps it real with me. This is the mentality of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

I don't feel the need to speak to my family friends on a daily basis. I feel the same about anyone that I may casually date. I am not a daily talker. I enjoy keeping my conversations less than ten (10) minutes at a time. I am a person of even fewer words when it comes to texting. I usually respect someone that calls me just to check-in on me or just needed to tell me something important. Empty air during a telephone call bores me. That is the best thing about a person with a long wolf mentality: There is not a need to participate in a long phone call with anyone.

When in public, I usually attempt to keep things neutral with my hangout locations. I am not a fan of house parties and/or happy hour time with coworkers. I figured that everyone enjoys being themselves when they are away from. So, a person would usually allow those to be around them that also share in their same ideal of "fun."  My ideal of fun is simple: Nice, fun restaurants or sports bars, movie theatres, and bowling alleys (in no particular order). A person with a lone wolf mentality would mainly attempt to roam in their familiar surroundings unless forced to do so in order to adjust to a certain situation. For the record, I enjoy having a good time--I just rather enjoy it with those that I consider to be trustworthy and not problematic when they are out in public. A person with a lone wolf mentality doesn't want to draw any bad attention to themselves whenever possible.  

At one time being a "realist" was a main part of my everyday lifestyle. Now, due to the change of time, I am more "unorthodox" with my way of thinking these days than in years past. A person with a lone wolf mentality needed to be unorthodox in order to be able to adjust to the adversities of life. I enjoy not feeling restrictive with my mentality since becoming unorthodox. And, I enjoy doing my own thing. And, I can do it without loosing myself temper or peace of mind. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

The Lone Wolf Mentality: Keeping life simple...

I don't have a reason to be upset with the way that I have been living my life, thus far. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality shouldn't be upset with anyone but themselves, if they are not living the life that they are currently want to live. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is the "masters of their own fate" with their life. So, a person with ta Lone Wolf mentality should do something to better their life if they have any issues with they way that have been living it up until now. There are no excuses for not doing so by now.

Yes, from time to time, our life will be affected by others that may attempt to domesticate us, or make us more docile to their will, during one of their controlled environments. But, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can adjust to the will of another without losing the essence of who they are while enduring through that adjusted environment. There is no shame to a person with a Lone Wolf mentality to adjust to any environment, or circumstance, in order to be able to endure through that ordeal or situation. This is the way of the Lone Wolf's existence. And, while we exist in this world, we attempt to be as much as a positive influence in society as possible. "Damn all others, who may attempt to set themselves against us all around."

Life is a book with many chapters that are yet to be written as we continue to journey through it. The ending of our life's book, is finished when photos, audio/video recordings, or our loved ones' memories of us no longer exist to the point that we are only thought of in spirit. Until then, a person with Lone Wolf mentality shouldn't stay focused on the past when they still have so much to live for in the present. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality respects the lives of those that have came before before us, those that we were blessed to have interacted with while they were still alive, and attempt to pass on their memories onto others until we are no longer able to do so. This should be the basic philosophy of the Lone Wolf way.

I attempt to keep my life as simple as possible. I enjoy chilling from time to time at my place of refuge in order to keep myself grounded. I mingle with others to remember why I need to continue to be a  positive example to others without trying to exert my way of thinking upon others. And, I will continue to stay away from any unnecessary drama as much as possible that may come either my family members or friends. This is how a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can usually keep their life more feasible to endure on a day to day basis. This is my Lone Wolf way...

Lone Wolf vs Life Choices...

As with all things in life, we all will eventually have to die. The question is whether you lived a happy life or not. I can say without certainty that I "am" living a life that makes me happy. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality can sometimes appear to live a very lonely existence by others. But, to a Lone Wolf, "living alone" doesn't mean that they are "feeling alone" in their life. I enjoy the feeling of living by myself. It used to bother me when others look or talk to me as if I am in a sad state of being for never have been married and/or had children. But, now, I see that I have been able to experience more freedom in my life while living alone without having to answer to anyone. I can hang out with whom I want to hang out with. I can spend the night anywhere that I choose to do so without having to check in with anyone. I can just up and move to another location without having to affect anyone that may have been close to me. And, I can choose to stop talking to anyone that I see as an unnecessary burden to me and my self worth without having to give a reason. This is the mentality of a Lone Wolf.  

This past week has been both exhilarating and fun time of my life since I decided to finally leave my dad and half siblings behind in my rear view mirror and move forward with my life without them. I don't feel like I have to "adjust my lifestyle or way of thinking" in order to cater to their personal opinions of me or my indifference of our dad. I even had my best two days of bowling since I released myself of such burdensome thoughts. I not saying that I won't ever stop loving my dad and my half-sibling. I just want to continue to enjoy living the one life that I have without all the drama and criticisms being given off by my dad and half-siblings. Life is too short for that mess. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality cannot afford to worry about anything that they cannot control. When one of the wolf pack is unable to continue to move with the pack, the pack must continue to move forward for the continued survival of their species. When, I cannot continue to move forward with my life with my dad and half-siblings in it, for my peace of well-being, I must move on without them. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality. 

I am sure that I will have to answer for my life choices, eventually. but, for now, I am content with living my life with as little of family drama as possible. So, if letting go of the love ones that seem to think that their opinions or feelings of me matters, in order to enjoy the rest of my life that I may have to live without regrets. Then, this will be my way of the Lone Wolf. 

Lone Wolf vs Internal Sibling Divisions

I am not a fan of having drama in my life. Nor, do I see a need to worry about how others think of the way that I am living my life. I also do not lose any sleep when someone is upset with me about something that has no direct bearing with their life, because of the choices that I make. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

When someone asks for my opinions about something that they are currently dealing with, I give it to them. Otherwise, I keep my opinion to myself while listening to someone telling me about current dilemma. With this being said, I tend to stay away from those that appear to keep unnecessary drama in their lives. I also choose not to be around people that tend to be upset with me because of family members that I choose not to want to communicate with anymore. To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, they tend to learn how to survive on their own for so long others opinions really don't mean that much to them. My decisions to do or not do something sometimes tend to rub others the wrong way. I don't feel that I have to explain myself to anyone that don't agree with my decisions. In same turn, I can respect a decision that someone made with a need for an explanation. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

On Sunday, one of my half-siblings appeared upset with me for not wanting to speak to my dad. This same half-sibling may be upset with me because I told one of my half-siblings that she didn't need to keep checking up on me every week. I am a forty-seven year old adult. I made it through my elementary, junior high, high school, college, and career without their opinions and or lack of support to even want to be in my life during those times. so, I do not see a need for my half-siblings attempt to have any control over my life now. If my half-siblings can't respect my choice to not speak to my dad, or my other half-siblings, I don't need them in my life also. This is the mentality of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

I'll always care about my half-siblings. But, like my dad, they think they can show up during my adult phase of my life and attempt to conform me to their way of thinking about my dad. My half-siblings may have experienced life a little different with dad. But, my dad has been so judgemental with my life, if he isn't bad mouthing my mother to me, I don't need to justify not wanting to be around him. And, since I have been living a good productive lifestyle and career up until now with my dad in my life, I am choosing to keep my dad out of the rest of my life. If this decision of mine upsets my half-siblings, then they don't have to be in my life also. This is my way of the Lone Wolf.

Lone Wolf vs Half-siblings

The day that I have to worry about what my half-siblings think of me or my lifestyle is the day that I am living under their roof. Until, I can care less what my siblings think of me or my lifestyle. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is content with the way they have been living their life is because they do not have to justify their existence or seek approval from anyone. It has nothing to be with me a conceited person or an anarchist. I am just to the point of my life where another person's opinion of me really doesn't matter. My close friends accept this nature about me. My siblings that understand this nature about me and respect it. So, if any of my half-siblings won't accept the way that I am living my life, then those half-siblings don't need to be a part of my life anymore. This is the mentality of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, if a Lone Wolf feels that someone or something is a negative influence or is a negative factor in their live, they choose to let that part of their negative of their life go. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality don't need to give anyone a reason to explain why they made the decision to keep someone out of their life. I am a grown man. I made it this far in life by marching to my own beat of the drum (to coin a phrase). A person with a Lone Wolf mentality will ask for someones opinion when they want someones opinion. Otherwise, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality will always find a way to get through a rough situation or tragedy.

I am 47 years old. I am not a fan of my dad. All my dad has ever done is criticise the way that I have been living my life. I am a single, college educated man that has never been married or divorced. And, I do not have any children (as far I know of). I work in a good career field that can be very challenging and stressful at time. And, I have a pet dog, that I have raised since she was a puppy that house trained and smart. So, overall, I am happy with my life. I can't say the same for most of my siblings. Yet, I am the bad seed of my half-siblings for not caring too much about being around my dad. I am not a fan of my oldest half-brother for a derogatory remark that he once made during one of his drunken stupors in the past. Now that he is an ordained minister, I still can care less about him. An ass hole is still an ass hole no matter if he is an ordained minister. I believe my oldest half-sister is upset with me because I told her that she didn't need to keep checking up on me every week. it was becoming annoying.  

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality enjoys a quiet weekend at home whenever they are able to do so. And, I don't need to explain to a sibling why I don't feel like answering their phone call. Now, my fourth oldest half-brother appears to be upset with me because I either upset my oldest half-sister or won't talk to my dad. He also decided to stress his dismay with me in front of his other bowling buddies when I came by to tell him about dad attempting to call me. I can respect my fourth brother's choice if he doesn't want to talk to me at this time.

With a Lone Wolf mentality, a person don't need to be blood-related to be a sibling of mine. I am blessed to have those that accept me for the person that I am. And, I mutually respect my close friends in return without judgement. Regardless what may happen between me and my half-siblings, life will go on as usual. And, if my half-siblings can't accept they way I am currently living my life, or my choice to not want to communicate with my dad, I don't need to be around them anymore. I was a survivalist before my half-siblings returned to my life; and, I will continue to be a survivalist if my half-siblings choose not to be in my life because of my life choices.  This is my Lone Wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs Time

I'm not really sure how much time I will have to roam this Earth. All that I know is to live my life the best way that I can do. Being a Lone Wolf means to-live ones time as they see fit for their own stability. To attempt to live my life in order to seek the approval of another is not the way of the Lone Wolf. I'm not saying that I am inconsiderate of others during my life's journey. I don't see a Lone Wolf having to worry how others may them as a person. To know a person that possesses a Lone Wolf mentality is to never have to second guess the heart or motives of that person.

I been blessed to have friends that I can consider as being trustworthy. In turn, my friends have come to know me to be a person that have basically been the same person throughout time. A lot of my closest friends have been married, divorced, re-married, have children, even been in some trouble with the law. With the path that I been taking throughout my entire life, a lot of them have come to know me a good guy that hasn't sought marriage or children during their associations with me. I sometimes forget how much time has passed sine I either last talked with them on the cell phone or hung out with them in person. A young women told me a long time ago when I was hounding her about why she hadn't called me lately, "There is no time between friends." Hence, I don't have to worry about loosing the respect of my friends for not contacting them or hanging out with them because the amount of time being too far out to become a worry for them.

Due to the demands and sometimes time restraints placed on me in my line of career, I don't like to have those same time restraints placed on my during my personal life. Now, when I usually make a plan to do something on my personal time, I normally make the time to do it. Or, if I did find someone special to casually date, I also will make time to spend with them. But, overall, I do not like to make any long term plans or commitments with anyone (family or friends), if I don't have to do so. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality will always find a way to take care of the ones that they consider to be precious or loved. So, a Lone Wolf would prioritize their time to the ones closest to them first before all others' demands of their time. And, a Lone Wolf's personal time will always to taken first before any ones demands. If a Lone Wolf do not find time to spend alone, then eventually time will eventually force a Lone Wolf stop and relax until they are well enough to continue with their interaction with the rest of the world.

One my days off, I attempt to make time a factor for me. I have learnt that things that others may want you to do will still happen with or without me being there. It's the weekend, now. I have been relaxing with my cell phone upstairs away from my hearing range. I have been spending time and relaxing with my pet dog with any interruptions from the outside world. And, it feels good to just spend time alone and relax. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality should enjoy the moments alone that they are able to have whenever possible for sanity sake. Anything that may need to be done will still be there the next day to be done. So, for now, I am going to enjoy relaxing and just doing what I would like to do for a change. This is my Lone Wolf way...

The Lone Wolf way vs Religion, love, hate, and all the things in between...

Lone Wolf and Religion: I am unorthodox with my religiousness believes. Meaning, that I am a spiritual person without feeling the need to impose my religious views on anyone. I say this not about myself to suggest that a person with the mentality of the Lone Wolf feels the same way that I do about religion. I 'm not saying that at all. I am only stating that whatever a Lone Wolf believe or not believe in regards to religion should be of their own free will.

I used to get all stressed out with other telling me that, "The Bible say this..." or "The Bible says that.." about me not being married. I don't believe that God will not allow me into Heaven, if I don't ever meet anyone to marry. And, any religion that believes in a God that won't let a single person enter Heaven because that choose to live a single, stress-free life, is not a religion that I choose to follow. When it comes to religion, this is my Lone Wolf way...

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Lone Wolf and Love: I love the ideal of being "in love", yet I can't seem to allow myself to " fully commit" to a more relationship with a potential soul mate.  Again, this has nothing to do with a person with a Lone Wolf mentality. But, it is consistent with our dating lifestyle. A person with a Lone Wolf is very cautious about the people that they allow into their "circle of trust". The gauge being to rises as their relationship with someone become more serious.

As I stated before, I sorta describe myself as feeling more "claustrophobic" as a woman began to display symptoms of wanting our "causal" dating relationship to become something more.

Question: Why am I "stubborn" about not wanting to be in an serious relationship with someone?
Answer: I am not stubborn. I choose to not enter into a serious relationship cause, up until now, I don't usually see a future with that person that I am causally dating.

I know that I may be choosing these women on purpose in order to stay out of serious relationships. But, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality knows what they want out of life. If I ever meet a woman that seems effortlessly natural whenever I am around them, then I know she is the woman that I would like to pursue a more serious relationship with them. And, this is my Lone Wolf way.

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Lone Wolf and Hate: To dwell on hate, is not a healthy to do for anyone. I am sorta moronic with that previous sentence in that I also allow my hate to fester inside about someone instead of "getting it out in the open" with them. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality would most likely rather just avoid or no longer be around anyone that they deem as a "negative person". To give a person a moment of your hatred, is give that person power over your emotions and well-being. I can't live that with my life. Lately, I decided to be more "civil"  with those that I used to allow to affect me in a negative way. I also, in turn, chose to be around anyone that have a negative affect on me.

Question: How do I deal with those coworkers at work that have a negative influence on you?
Answer: I choose to do the opposite of what they expected me to behave from their negative actions.

Of course, it is definitely "easier said than done" on some days than others while at work. But, I am getting better at it day by day. This is my Lone Wolf way.

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Lone Wolf and All the things in between: Overall, my life is as good as a single person can expect out of life. I never been married, I don't have any children, and I own a pet that is both house trained and smart. I make enough money to pay my bills and enjoy life a little. I am about to be able to have a little extra money in the bank for those upcoming "rainy days". And, I feel like I have a blessed life. Most importantly, I don't feel feel lonely.

This past Saturday, I hung out with a person that I have come to known as a friend. He cleaned up and updated my computer while we caught up on things. My friend and I get along well with each other because he and I share the "Lone Wolf"  mentality even though we both are coming from two different spectrum in life to get to the way that we are now. We are single guys ad we are both okay with it. We both would like to find that special woman to share our lives with, but we are patient to meet this potential person. And, we are both enjoying our new stress-free apartments.

Being a Lone Wolf is a way of thought. Like everything else in life, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can successfully thrive in a serious relationship. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. there is nothing wrong with us. If a person wants to be single for the rest of their life, then is okay also. I don't see the rest of my life as a single person. I'm just not ready to be in a serious relationship, either. When it comes to "all things in between" I'm happy with where I am with social, work, and personal life. Where I'll go with my life is up to me and me only. And, I this is my Lone Wolf way...

The Lone Wolf Mentality: Room 101...

No one can truly be a person with a Lone Wolf mentality until one can come to first love, respect, believe, and compose ones self. This is the basic feelings of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

Question: How can a person ever be happy with them self even with the problems that they are current dealing with?
Answer: Lao Tzu is credited for this quote: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." 

I took this quote in meaning that Lao Tzu believed that any struggles that someone may be experiencing in their lives can be overcome if they attempt to handle one issue at a time instead of trying to tackle it all at once. This is the quote that I, as a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, have come to rely upon even during my lowest of times. When a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can come to this level of realisation and acceptability with them self, then their life's problems or hardships don't appear to be too impossible to handle. Others also come to see a person that possesses a Lone Wolf mentality as be a person that displays a humbling confidence about them self. We are usually easily approachable. And, ironically, we work well with a team during tasks or assignments. And, we attempt to steadily using "... Journey of a thousand miles..." metaphors from their personal experiences during our encouragements and constructive advice with others.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality tends to rely on their past experiences and hardships when they are dispensing advice or comforting support to someone. And, people with a Lone Wolf mentalities usually end up gravitating towards one another and develop a good trusting because of their similarly experienced problems and hardships. People with Lone Wolf mentalities will always very feel relaxed and trusting around each other while hanging out together. Even when time has passed between two of them, people with Lone Wolf mentalities don't let that be an issue between them because they both acknowledge and respect each others need to enjoy their spatial boundaries, or personal space.

Yesterday, the woman that I ended our dating relationship with called me. I continued to provide a supportive conversation with her during our telephone call; but, this time is was more of the role of a good friend rather than someone that was dating her. I stayed away from any conversation during our phone call that drifted into the question of us possibly resuming a dating relationship. I just wanted this woman to know and feel that I was proud of her new promotion and career move to another casino that appears to value her culinary and professional experience. I have been encouraging woman all things will become possible for her as long as she takes it one day at a time. And, I was glad that this woman felt that she could still contact me to talk with each other as friends.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is not really that hard to figure out cause we attempt to keep things that are occurring in our life as simple as possible. We see life a being to short for drama; and, we tend to repel ourselves away from those that seem to want to constantly keep drama in their lives. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality usually find creative ways to spend their alone time. We allow pets to be apart of our personal space. And, we have no problem being able to be frank and honest with another people when the need arises. To be honest with ones self and others is the typical foundation of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

When it comes to the essence of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, it is something that a person ever needs to say to another like-minded person that they may encounter. We will usually pick up that "vibe" from each other instantly from the moment we began conversing with each other. We can be sometime be misunderstood by society as being either "anti-social"; but, that stereotype is immediately dispelled after spending some time with us. I enjoy my Lone Wolf mentality. I have gotten this far in life with it.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is possessing a never-ending way of thinking during the span of their lifetime. I believe that I'm a better person in my personal life and at work because of this mentality. If I also managed to find that special someone during my journey to obtain a more healthier, secure, and stable lifestyle, then that would be a definite bonus. So, taking matters into their own hands in order to improve their own well-being and lifestyle is the objective of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

Dating a person with a Lone Wolf mentality...

Question: Do a person with a "Lone Wolf" mentality date?
Answer: Of course we do.

People that possess a Lone Wolf mentality are not monks. We enjoy dating relationships. Those with Lone Wolf mentalities are even capable of even having serious relationships; but, we tend to be more cautious with whom gets our mind, body, and soul to before entering into any relationship beyond just a dating relationship. It can sometimes be very frustrating to date person with a Lone Wolf mentality, who doesn't want to talk about a serious relationship.

Question: Why does a person with a Lone Wolf mentality is usually hesitate about entering a serious relationship with someone that have been dating?
Answer: A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is hesitant about entering a serious relationship with someone they have been dating is because they are not willing to submit to the ideal of freely giving their "total self" to another person, yet.

Being a serious relationship scares the crap out of me. As I have stated many of times before to my family and friends, I am perfectly happy with being a single person. In many of my past dating relationships, I usually find fault, or enough "red flags", with a woman that I would date. Some of my reasons for ending a dating relationship with a woman were just; and, others reasons were just excuses to not further a reason with a woman. The bottom line is that I enjoy doing what ever I want to do and go wherever I want to go without having to check in with someone. I know that is part of a relationship with two people that have come to care about each other. But, I choose not to want to have to do that with someone at this point of my forty-seven years. I also can't shake off that "fenced in" or "restricted" feeling when I began to realise how serious a dating relationship may be heading. If I don't feel like "I" don't have a "natural chemistry: with a woman that I am dating within a few weeks, I will quickly end that relationship.

A friend once told me that in order to see if someone was the right person for you, you need interact with that person in different environments to see if you still feel the same about in those environments. I sorta over simplified the different environments, but they can be done in no particular order:

• hanging out at the movie, a theatre play, a museum, etc.
• hanging out with some of your friends who opinions you trust
• letting them meet some of your coworkers
• chatting an a nice place during lunch or dinner
• a romantic evening together
• hanging out with you during one of your family get-to-there
• a vacation or road trip
• hanging out with the other person's friends and family members 
• sporting event, or participating in a sporting event together
• something spontaneous 

Up until now, I've mainly been able to venture into one of those environments with about eighty-five to ninety percent of the woman that I've dated. And, only one woman has ever made through about four to five environments before I decided to end the relationship with them. I just didn't see me spending the rest of my life with this woman. So, I ended it. If I can meet someone that I have enjoyed being with them during at least seventy-five percent of these different environments, I would definitely consider moving to the next level of a relationship with that woman.

Right now, I like casual dating. It's usually fun with no expectations attached to it. It can be cancelled with an agreed "rain check" to do it on another time with no issues. And, there's no time limit when to meet up with the person again cause it wasn't a serious relationship. The only issue a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can issues with casual dating is if sex becomes part of the equation. Otherwise, casual dating works like "gang busters" with a Lone Wolf.

So, to recap, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality do date. Just be patient with us during that dating relationship. If we feel like pursuing a more serious relationship with someone that may hold a special place in our hearts, there won't be a need to push or force us into that serious relationship cause it would just feel like the natural thing to do in order to remain with that special someone. Otherwise, whenever someone attempts to push or force a person with a Lone Wolf mentality into a serious relationship, you may just get an opposite response from us; and it most likely be the beginning of that dating relationship ending.

If pushed, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality would rather end a dating relationship with someone in order for them to go meet someone than continue to stay in that dating relationship with that persistent person. And we will do thinking that we were ending that relationship in "their best interest". That is just the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

The mentality of a Lone Wolf...

It's been a couple of days since my breakup with the nice, kind-hearted woman that had brought some happiness to my life for about a month. And, I still feel that the break up was the best thing to do for the both of us. "Never waste a person's time in a any relationship if you are not at the same level of commitment as the other person in that relationship."

Question: When is the right time to tell your lover that you want to end the relationship with them?
Answer: There is never a good time to tell your lover that you want toend the relationship with them. Dah!!!

With the mentality of a "Lone Wolf", I mainly enjoy the ideal of being "alone"; and, I hardly ever think of myself of being "lonely", which are two separate rules of "thought" to me. According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary, as you know, the word "alone" means "without anyone or anything else". The word "lonely" means "to be sad from being apart from other people". At this moment in my life, I enjoy the ideal of being "alone".

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality usually enjoys the feeling of not having to answer to no one for their actions or whereabouts. A Lone Wolf enjoys the feeling of being "tied down" by a potential committed relationship with someone. And, a Lone Wolf usually don't consider the notion of being lonely until some "mean-do-well" like a coworker, a friend, and/or a family member places a "You seemed lonely..." stigma on a person while trying to set us up with one of their single friends. For the record, you are a Lone Wolf when others continue to attempt to get you to meet one of their single friends, when you feel that it wasn't necessary for them to do so. But, I digress.

Like I said earlier, it has been a couple of days since my breakup with the nice, kind-hearted woman that had brought some happiness into my life for about a month. I have no regrets from my selfish decision. I didn't see that relationship being nothing more than a dating/intimate relationship because the more the woman wanted "titles" associated with that relationship, such as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", "the more I began to feel "claustrophobia" in that relatioship". To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, wanting to live a single life has nothing to do with a person wanting to date and/or have sex with more than one person at the same time. With me, it's more about possibly loosing my own identity while being in a committed relationship.

Question: Where did I get the notion of loosing my identity while being in a committed relationship?
Answer: To be honest, I have no clue where I got that frame of thinking from.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality just don't see need of putting labels on a potential relationship until they feel "totally" secure in "mind, body, and spirit" with that other person they are dating. To rush a person with a Lone Wolf mentality into a more serious relationship is to do nothing more than cause that Lone Wolf to become more cautious with the progression of that relationship. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality would then begin to "regress" as that relationship progresses to the point that the Lone Wolf decides to no longer feel interested in remaining in that potential relationship. This is the way of the Lone Wolf.

People with the "Lone Wolf" mentality are usually not bad people. Our mentality can sometimes be misunderstood or hard to understand by others. Deep down inside, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality love the "ideal" to spend the rest of their lives with someone special. Like myself, I'm sure there are othr like minded people that have been hurt, or worse, in some past relationships to had brought them to this Lone Wolf type of mentality. Or, they may have just given up on the thought or the possibility of ever meeting someone special during their lifetime. Regardless of the reason of having a Lone Wolf mentality, we have a reason for choosing to live and enjoy their single lifestyle.

Mythbuster: A person with a Lone Wolf mentality don't enjoy hurting anyone's feeling while desolving a relationship. And, we usually recover pretty quickly after someone ends a relationship with us. We usually feel almost relieved when a relationship with someone has ended for some funny reason. I also don't have an explanation for that feeling.

People with a "Lone Wolf" mentality believes that their actions differ from those people that jump from relationship to relationship, either because of their desries for sexual conquests or the fear of sleeping in a lonely bed night after night. Neither of these selfish desires are a part of people with a Lone Wolf mentality. To a Lone Wolf, the desires to be in a relationship, whenever it may occur, is strictly to see if they may have found that potential someone that can truly make that Lone Wolf "feel whole". The needs of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality to find that "one true special person" is the main reason a Lone Wolf continues to venture into a dating relationship with someone. Each encounter with that new person they are dating is being evaluated to determine whether that potential relationship should "continue" or " not continue".

To a Lone Wolf, the end game of a relationship is not even a potential thought because we usually find a reason or a self destructing way to not continue with that potential relationship with someone. We may have even brought the person we are dating around our coworkers, friends, and maybe family members in that usual order just to see how we feel about them with those different social gorups; but, to us it doesn't mean that social group encounter with the person they are dating, the same two questions still exist in the back of their mind, to "continue" or "not continue" with that person.

I don't want leave with the readers of this blog to think that I am making any excuse for my Lone Wolf mentality. I'm a 47 year single guy that has neither been engaged or married. The choice to be single, is one of the known traits of having a "Lone Wolf" mentality. I know that every choice made in my life has come with consequences, both good and bad ones. And, I would like to believe that the day will come when a person with a Lone Wolf mentality has to eventually face the realization of hiding behind the "joys of being single" in order to be able to move on towards a committed relationship with someone. I am not clueless to this realization. I just want the readers to get a little more understanding from a fellow "Lone Wolf" when they attempt to set us up with another single person.

If you run into someone that you are trying to setup with another single friend of yours, who responds with "It never hurts to possibly meet new friend.", then you are most likely talking with a person with the mentality of a Lone Wolf.

Question: Is this the time for me face my realization now?
Answer: Unfortunately, not at this time.

And, readers, the next time you feel the desire to set up someone with one of your single friends. No matter how well your intentions may be, a Lone Wolf will find a gentle way of telling you to stop wasting you time with that thought. As a Lone Wolf, I enjoy be single. And, until I meet someone that can cause me feel otherwise, I will continue to feel this way with no regrets. Please respect our wishes when you finally realize that a Lone Wolf doesn't want to meet your single friends, no matter how good your intentions may be for trying get us to meet...

I am Lone Wolf...

On yesterday, I had to end a dating relationship with a good woman. It's probably a bad way to begin the first of many blogs. But, it needed to be said. The woman that I was dating for about a month took the news on the phone with much restraint, I believe. Yet, during our conversation she was steadily finding ways to no longer want to see me again in the future. I can't blame her. I call her on the telephone instead of meeting with her in person to tell this nice, kind woman that I want to end our dating relationship. The problem with being a Lone Wolf is that no matter how good a woman may be for me, I will end up feeling happier being single than feeling miserable in a dating relationship that I do not seem to want to make more serious. I am Lone Wolf. And, being single is most likely going to be my end game. But, I am not making it sound like that would be a bad thing to be is single. Hence, the Tao of a Lone Wolf. More to come...