No one can truly be a person with a Lone Wolf mentality until one can come to first love, respect, believe, and compose ones self. This is the basic feelings of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.
Question: How can a person ever be happy with them self even with the problems that they are current dealing with?
Answer: Lao Tzu is credited for this quote: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."
I took this quote in meaning that Lao Tzu believed that any struggles that someone may be experiencing in their lives can be overcome if they attempt to handle one issue at a time instead of trying to tackle it all at once. This is the quote that I, as a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, have come to rely upon even during my lowest of times. When a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can come to this level of realisation and acceptability with them self, then their life's problems or hardships don't appear to be too impossible to handle. Others also come to see a person that possesses a Lone Wolf mentality as be a person that displays a humbling confidence about them self. We are usually easily approachable. And, ironically, we work well with a team during tasks or assignments. And, we attempt to steadily using "... Journey of a thousand miles..." metaphors from their personal experiences during our encouragements and constructive advice with others.
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality tends to rely on their past experiences and hardships when they are dispensing advice or comforting support to someone. And, people with a Lone Wolf mentalities usually end up gravitating towards one another and develop a good trusting because of their similarly experienced problems and hardships. People with Lone Wolf mentalities will always very feel relaxed and trusting around each other while hanging out together. Even when time has passed between two of them, people with Lone Wolf mentalities don't let that be an issue between them because they both acknowledge and respect each others need to enjoy their spatial boundaries, or personal space.
Yesterday, the woman that I ended our dating relationship with called me. I continued to provide a supportive conversation with her during our telephone call; but, this time is was more of the role of a good friend rather than someone that was dating her. I stayed away from any conversation during our phone call that drifted into the question of us possibly resuming a dating relationship. I just wanted this woman to know and feel that I was proud of her new promotion and career move to another casino that appears to value her culinary and professional experience. I have been encouraging woman all things will become possible for her as long as she takes it one day at a time. And, I was glad that this woman felt that she could still contact me to talk with each other as friends.
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is not really that hard to figure out cause we attempt to keep things that are occurring in our life as simple as possible. We see life a being to short for drama; and, we tend to repel ourselves away from those that seem to want to constantly keep drama in their lives. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality usually find creative ways to spend their alone time. We allow pets to be apart of our personal space. And, we have no problem being able to be frank and honest with another people when the need arises. To be honest with ones self and others is the typical foundation of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.
When it comes to the essence of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, it is something that a person ever needs to say to another like-minded person that they may encounter. We will usually pick up that "vibe" from each other instantly from the moment we began conversing with each other. We can be sometime be misunderstood by society as being either "anti-social"; but, that stereotype is immediately dispelled after spending some time with us. I enjoy my Lone Wolf mentality. I have gotten this far in life with it.
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is possessing a never-ending way of thinking during the span of their lifetime. I believe that I'm a better person in my personal life and at work because of this mentality. If I also managed to find that special someone during my journey to obtain a more healthier, secure, and stable lifestyle, then that would be a definite bonus. So, taking matters into their own hands in order to improve their own well-being and lifestyle is the objective of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.
Saturday, 24 January 2015
Monday, 19 January 2015
Dating a person with a Lone Wolf mentality...
Question: Do a person with a "Lone Wolf" mentality date?
Answer: Of course we do.
People that possess a Lone Wolf mentality are not monks. We enjoy dating relationships. Those with Lone Wolf mentalities are even capable of even having serious relationships; but, we tend to be more cautious with whom gets our mind, body, and soul to before entering into any relationship beyond just a dating relationship. It can sometimes be very frustrating to date person with a Lone Wolf mentality, who doesn't want to talk about a serious relationship.
Question: Why does a person with a Lone Wolf mentality is usually hesitate about entering a serious relationship with someone that have been dating?
Answer: A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is hesitant about entering a serious relationship with someone they have been dating is because they are not willing to submit to the ideal of freely giving their "total self" to another person, yet.
Being a serious relationship scares the crap out of me. As I have stated many of times before to my family and friends, I am perfectly happy with being a single person. In many of my past dating relationships, I usually find fault, or enough "red flags", with a woman that I would date. Some of my reasons for ending a dating relationship with a woman were just; and, others reasons were just excuses to not further a reason with a woman. The bottom line is that I enjoy doing what ever I want to do and go wherever I want to go without having to check in with someone. I know that is part of a relationship with two people that have come to care about each other. But, I choose not to want to have to do that with someone at this point of my forty-seven years. I also can't shake off that "fenced in" or "restricted" feeling when I began to realise how serious a dating relationship may be heading. If I don't feel like "I" don't have a "natural chemistry: with a woman that I am dating within a few weeks, I will quickly end that relationship.
A friend once told me that in order to see if someone was the right person for you, you need interact with that person in different environments to see if you still feel the same about in those environments. I sorta over simplified the different environments, but they can be done in no particular order:
Up until now, I've mainly been able to venture into one of those environments with about eighty-five to ninety percent of the woman that I've dated. And, only one woman has ever made through about four to five environments before I decided to end the relationship with them. I just didn't see me spending the rest of my life with this woman. So, I ended it. If I can meet someone that I have enjoyed being with them during at least seventy-five percent of these different environments, I would definitely consider moving to the next level of a relationship with that woman.
Right now, I like casual dating. It's usually fun with no expectations attached to it. It can be cancelled with an agreed "rain check" to do it on another time with no issues. And, there's no time limit when to meet up with the person again cause it wasn't a serious relationship. The only issue a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can issues with casual dating is if sex becomes part of the equation. Otherwise, casual dating works like "gang busters" with a Lone Wolf.
So, to recap, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality do date. Just be patient with us during that dating relationship. If we feel like pursuing a more serious relationship with someone that may hold a special place in our hearts, there won't be a need to push or force us into that serious relationship cause it would just feel like the natural thing to do in order to remain with that special someone. Otherwise, whenever someone attempts to push or force a person with a Lone Wolf mentality into a serious relationship, you may just get an opposite response from us; and it most likely be the beginning of that dating relationship ending.
If pushed, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality would rather end a dating relationship with someone in order for them to go meet someone than continue to stay in that dating relationship with that persistent person. And we will do thinking that we were ending that relationship in "their best interest". That is just the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.
Answer: Of course we do.
People that possess a Lone Wolf mentality are not monks. We enjoy dating relationships. Those with Lone Wolf mentalities are even capable of even having serious relationships; but, we tend to be more cautious with whom gets our mind, body, and soul to before entering into any relationship beyond just a dating relationship. It can sometimes be very frustrating to date person with a Lone Wolf mentality, who doesn't want to talk about a serious relationship.
Question: Why does a person with a Lone Wolf mentality is usually hesitate about entering a serious relationship with someone that have been dating?
Answer: A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is hesitant about entering a serious relationship with someone they have been dating is because they are not willing to submit to the ideal of freely giving their "total self" to another person, yet.
Being a serious relationship scares the crap out of me. As I have stated many of times before to my family and friends, I am perfectly happy with being a single person. In many of my past dating relationships, I usually find fault, or enough "red flags", with a woman that I would date. Some of my reasons for ending a dating relationship with a woman were just; and, others reasons were just excuses to not further a reason with a woman. The bottom line is that I enjoy doing what ever I want to do and go wherever I want to go without having to check in with someone. I know that is part of a relationship with two people that have come to care about each other. But, I choose not to want to have to do that with someone at this point of my forty-seven years. I also can't shake off that "fenced in" or "restricted" feeling when I began to realise how serious a dating relationship may be heading. If I don't feel like "I" don't have a "natural chemistry: with a woman that I am dating within a few weeks, I will quickly end that relationship.
A friend once told me that in order to see if someone was the right person for you, you need interact with that person in different environments to see if you still feel the same about in those environments. I sorta over simplified the different environments, but they can be done in no particular order:
- hanging out at the movie, a theatre play, a museum, etc.
- hanging out with some of your friends who opinions you trust
- letting them meet some of your coworkers
- chatting an a nice place during lunch or dinner
- a romantic evening together
- hanging out with you during one of your family get-to-there
- a vacation or road trip
- hanging out with the other person's friends and family members
- sporting event, or participating in a sporting event together
- something spontaneous
Up until now, I've mainly been able to venture into one of those environments with about eighty-five to ninety percent of the woman that I've dated. And, only one woman has ever made through about four to five environments before I decided to end the relationship with them. I just didn't see me spending the rest of my life with this woman. So, I ended it. If I can meet someone that I have enjoyed being with them during at least seventy-five percent of these different environments, I would definitely consider moving to the next level of a relationship with that woman.
Right now, I like casual dating. It's usually fun with no expectations attached to it. It can be cancelled with an agreed "rain check" to do it on another time with no issues. And, there's no time limit when to meet up with the person again cause it wasn't a serious relationship. The only issue a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can issues with casual dating is if sex becomes part of the equation. Otherwise, casual dating works like "gang busters" with a Lone Wolf.
So, to recap, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality do date. Just be patient with us during that dating relationship. If we feel like pursuing a more serious relationship with someone that may hold a special place in our hearts, there won't be a need to push or force us into that serious relationship cause it would just feel like the natural thing to do in order to remain with that special someone. Otherwise, whenever someone attempts to push or force a person with a Lone Wolf mentality into a serious relationship, you may just get an opposite response from us; and it most likely be the beginning of that dating relationship ending.
If pushed, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality would rather end a dating relationship with someone in order for them to go meet someone than continue to stay in that dating relationship with that persistent person. And we will do thinking that we were ending that relationship in "their best interest". That is just the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.
Sunday, 11 January 2015
The mentality of a Lone Wolf...
It's been a couple of days since my breakup with the nice, kind-hearted woman that had brought some happiness to my life for about a month. And, I still feel that the break up was the best thing to do for the both of us. "Never waste a person's time in a any relationship if you are not at the same level of commitment as the other person in that relationship."
Question: When is the right time to tell your lover that you want to end the relationship with them?
Answer: There is never a good time to tell your lover that you want toend the relationship with them. Dah!!!
With the mentality of a "Lone Wolf", I mainly enjoy the ideal of being "alone"; and, I hardly ever think of myself of being "lonely", which are two separate rules of "thought" to me. According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary, as you know, the word "alone" means "without anyone or anything else". The word "lonely" means "to be sad from being apart from other people". At this moment in my life, I enjoy the ideal of being "alone".
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality usually enjoys the feeling of not having to answer to no one for their actions or whereabouts. A Lone Wolf enjoys the feeling of being "tied down" by a potential committed relationship with someone. And, a Lone Wolf usually don't consider the notion of being lonely until some "mean-do-well" like a coworker, a friend, and/or a family member places a "You seemed lonely..." stigma on a person while trying to set us up with one of their single friends. For the record, you are a Lone Wolf when others continue to attempt to get you to meet one of their single friends, when you feel that it wasn't necessary for them to do so. But, I digress.
Like I said earlier, it has been a couple of days since my breakup with the nice, kind-hearted woman that had brought some happiness into my life for about a month. I have no regrets from my selfish decision. I didn't see that relationship being nothing more than a dating/intimate relationship because the more the woman wanted "titles" associated with that relationship, such as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", "the more I began to feel "claustrophobia" in that relatioship". To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, wanting to live a single life has nothing to do with a person wanting to date and/or have sex with more than one person at the same time. With me, it's more about possibly loosing my own identity while being in a committed relationship.
Question: Where did I get the notion of loosing my identity while being in a committed relationship?
Answer: To be honest, I have no clue where I got that frame of thinking from.
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality just don't see need of putting labels on a potential relationship until they feel "totally" secure in "mind, body, and spirit" with that other person they are dating. To rush a person with a Lone Wolf mentality into a more serious relationship is to do nothing more than cause that Lone Wolf to become more cautious with the progression of that relationship. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality would then begin to "regress" as that relationship progresses to the point that the Lone Wolf decides to no longer feel interested in remaining in that potential relationship. This is the way of the Lone Wolf.
People with the "Lone Wolf" mentality are usually not bad people. Our mentality can sometimes be misunderstood or hard to understand by others. Deep down inside, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality love the "ideal" to spend the rest of their lives with someone special. Like myself, I'm sure there are othr like minded people that have been hurt, or worse, in some past relationships to had brought them to this Lone Wolf type of mentality. Or, they may have just given up on the thought or the possibility of ever meeting someone special during their lifetime. Regardless of the reason of having a Lone Wolf mentality, we have a reason for choosing to live and enjoy their single lifestyle.
Mythbuster: A person with a Lone Wolf mentality don't enjoy hurting anyone's feeling while desolving a relationship. And, we usually recover pretty quickly after someone ends a relationship with us. We usually feel almost relieved when a relationship with someone has ended for some funny reason. I also don't have an explanation for that feeling.
People with a "Lone Wolf" mentality believes that their actions differ from those people that jump from relationship to relationship, either because of their desries for sexual conquests or the fear of sleeping in a lonely bed night after night. Neither of these selfish desires are a part of people with a Lone Wolf mentality. To a Lone Wolf, the desires to be in a relationship, whenever it may occur, is strictly to see if they may have found that potential someone that can truly make that Lone Wolf "feel whole". The needs of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality to find that "one true special person" is the main reason a Lone Wolf continues to venture into a dating relationship with someone. Each encounter with that new person they are dating is being evaluated to determine whether that potential relationship should "continue" or " not continue".
To a Lone Wolf, the end game of a relationship is not even a potential thought because we usually find a reason or a self destructing way to not continue with that potential relationship with someone. We may have even brought the person we are dating around our coworkers, friends, and maybe family members in that usual order just to see how we feel about them with those different social gorups; but, to us it doesn't mean that social group encounter with the person they are dating, the same two questions still exist in the back of their mind, to "continue" or "not continue" with that person.
I don't want leave with the readers of this blog to think that I am making any excuse for my Lone Wolf mentality. I'm a 47 year single guy that has neither been engaged or married. The choice to be single, is one of the known traits of having a "Lone Wolf" mentality. I know that every choice made in my life has come with consequences, both good and bad ones. And, I would like to believe that the day will come when a person with a Lone Wolf mentality has to eventually face the realization of hiding behind the "joys of being single" in order to be able to move on towards a committed relationship with someone. I am not clueless to this realization. I just want the readers to get a little more understanding from a fellow "Lone Wolf" when they attempt to set us up with another single person.
If you run into someone that you are trying to setup with another single friend of yours, who responds with "It never hurts to possibly meet new friend.", then you are most likely talking with a person with the mentality of a Lone Wolf.
Question: Is this the time for me face my realization now?
Answer: Unfortunately, not at this time.
And, readers, the next time you feel the desire to set up someone with one of your single friends. No matter how well your intentions may be, a Lone Wolf will find a gentle way of telling you to stop wasting you time with that thought. As a Lone Wolf, I enjoy be single. And, until I meet someone that can cause me feel otherwise, I will continue to feel this way with no regrets. Please respect our wishes when you finally realize that a Lone Wolf doesn't want to meet your single friends, no matter how good your intentions may be for trying get us to meet...
Question: When is the right time to tell your lover that you want to end the relationship with them?
Answer: There is never a good time to tell your lover that you want toend the relationship with them. Dah!!!
With the mentality of a "Lone Wolf", I mainly enjoy the ideal of being "alone"; and, I hardly ever think of myself of being "lonely", which are two separate rules of "thought" to me. According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary, as you know, the word "alone" means "without anyone or anything else". The word "lonely" means "to be sad from being apart from other people". At this moment in my life, I enjoy the ideal of being "alone".
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality usually enjoys the feeling of not having to answer to no one for their actions or whereabouts. A Lone Wolf enjoys the feeling of being "tied down" by a potential committed relationship with someone. And, a Lone Wolf usually don't consider the notion of being lonely until some "mean-do-well" like a coworker, a friend, and/or a family member places a "You seemed lonely..." stigma on a person while trying to set us up with one of their single friends. For the record, you are a Lone Wolf when others continue to attempt to get you to meet one of their single friends, when you feel that it wasn't necessary for them to do so. But, I digress.
Like I said earlier, it has been a couple of days since my breakup with the nice, kind-hearted woman that had brought some happiness into my life for about a month. I have no regrets from my selfish decision. I didn't see that relationship being nothing more than a dating/intimate relationship because the more the woman wanted "titles" associated with that relationship, such as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", "the more I began to feel "claustrophobia" in that relatioship". To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, wanting to live a single life has nothing to do with a person wanting to date and/or have sex with more than one person at the same time. With me, it's more about possibly loosing my own identity while being in a committed relationship.
Question: Where did I get the notion of loosing my identity while being in a committed relationship?
Answer: To be honest, I have no clue where I got that frame of thinking from.
A person with a Lone Wolf mentality just don't see need of putting labels on a potential relationship until they feel "totally" secure in "mind, body, and spirit" with that other person they are dating. To rush a person with a Lone Wolf mentality into a more serious relationship is to do nothing more than cause that Lone Wolf to become more cautious with the progression of that relationship. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality would then begin to "regress" as that relationship progresses to the point that the Lone Wolf decides to no longer feel interested in remaining in that potential relationship. This is the way of the Lone Wolf.
People with the "Lone Wolf" mentality are usually not bad people. Our mentality can sometimes be misunderstood or hard to understand by others. Deep down inside, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality love the "ideal" to spend the rest of their lives with someone special. Like myself, I'm sure there are othr like minded people that have been hurt, or worse, in some past relationships to had brought them to this Lone Wolf type of mentality. Or, they may have just given up on the thought or the possibility of ever meeting someone special during their lifetime. Regardless of the reason of having a Lone Wolf mentality, we have a reason for choosing to live and enjoy their single lifestyle.
Mythbuster: A person with a Lone Wolf mentality don't enjoy hurting anyone's feeling while desolving a relationship. And, we usually recover pretty quickly after someone ends a relationship with us. We usually feel almost relieved when a relationship with someone has ended for some funny reason. I also don't have an explanation for that feeling.
People with a "Lone Wolf" mentality believes that their actions differ from those people that jump from relationship to relationship, either because of their desries for sexual conquests or the fear of sleeping in a lonely bed night after night. Neither of these selfish desires are a part of people with a Lone Wolf mentality. To a Lone Wolf, the desires to be in a relationship, whenever it may occur, is strictly to see if they may have found that potential someone that can truly make that Lone Wolf "feel whole". The needs of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality to find that "one true special person" is the main reason a Lone Wolf continues to venture into a dating relationship with someone. Each encounter with that new person they are dating is being evaluated to determine whether that potential relationship should "continue" or " not continue".
To a Lone Wolf, the end game of a relationship is not even a potential thought because we usually find a reason or a self destructing way to not continue with that potential relationship with someone. We may have even brought the person we are dating around our coworkers, friends, and maybe family members in that usual order just to see how we feel about them with those different social gorups; but, to us it doesn't mean that social group encounter with the person they are dating, the same two questions still exist in the back of their mind, to "continue" or "not continue" with that person.
I don't want leave with the readers of this blog to think that I am making any excuse for my Lone Wolf mentality. I'm a 47 year single guy that has neither been engaged or married. The choice to be single, is one of the known traits of having a "Lone Wolf" mentality. I know that every choice made in my life has come with consequences, both good and bad ones. And, I would like to believe that the day will come when a person with a Lone Wolf mentality has to eventually face the realization of hiding behind the "joys of being single" in order to be able to move on towards a committed relationship with someone. I am not clueless to this realization. I just want the readers to get a little more understanding from a fellow "Lone Wolf" when they attempt to set us up with another single person.
If you run into someone that you are trying to setup with another single friend of yours, who responds with "It never hurts to possibly meet new friend.", then you are most likely talking with a person with the mentality of a Lone Wolf.
Question: Is this the time for me face my realization now?
Answer: Unfortunately, not at this time.
And, readers, the next time you feel the desire to set up someone with one of your single friends. No matter how well your intentions may be, a Lone Wolf will find a gentle way of telling you to stop wasting you time with that thought. As a Lone Wolf, I enjoy be single. And, until I meet someone that can cause me feel otherwise, I will continue to feel this way with no regrets. Please respect our wishes when you finally realize that a Lone Wolf doesn't want to meet your single friends, no matter how good your intentions may be for trying get us to meet...
Saturday, 10 January 2015
I am Lone Wolf...
On yesterday, I had to end a dating relationship with a good woman. It's probably a bad way to begin the first of many blogs. But, it needed to be said. The woman that I was dating for about a month took the news on the phone with much restraint, I believe. Yet, during our conversation she was steadily finding ways to no longer want to see me again in the future. I can't blame her. I call her on the telephone instead of meeting with her in person to tell this nice, kind woman that I want to end our dating relationship. The problem with being a Lone Wolf is that no matter how good a woman may be for me, I will end up feeling happier being single than feeling miserable in a dating relationship that I do not seem to want to make more serious. I am Lone Wolf. And, being single is most likely going to be my end game.
But, I am not making it sound like that would be a bad thing to be is single. Hence, the Tao of a Lone Wolf. More to come...
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