Does "inner-self" helps a person with a lone wolf mentality?

Inner-self (noun): a person's true or internal mind, soul, or nature.

As stated many of times to people, I am a loner in heart and soul. I find myself at time being difficult about sharing my feelings with others. Yet, I am honest about my shortcomings as a person with a lone wolf mentality.  I find it very easy to have embraced my "inner-self" this past year. I love relying on my inner-self because, when it really comes down to wanting to obtain the things that strive for in life, it will usually come down to me making it happen for myself. and, if one doesn't trust their own-self, then how one be able to rely on their instincts for guidance through their situations in life. This inner-self trait should be apart of every person that has the mentality of a lone wolf mentality. 

Let me know if you ever heard this story in your personal life: You have always been there for people whether it was loaning a friend some money through a rough time, helping them through a tough or sticky situation that was occurring in their life, or something along that line of being that "friend in need". But, when it comes to you needing a friend to return that favour or pay you back the money you have loaned them  when you needed it back, they somehow find it easy to let you down. Yet, you still have to find a way to now get yourself through that rough patch or needed situation. Developing an inner-self and not cracking under the weight of whatever problem that you may be enduring is a good trait to possess. I can't say that I am a "master" of my inner-self. I just managed to develop a consistent way to make the necessary adjustments and/or sacrifices in my life in order to be able to find my way through that "long tunnel" or situation. When a person has the mentality of a lone wolf, that person can be able to obtain and maximise their inner-self. Inner-self is a sure way to survive through these current days of uncertainty in one's life.  

Having the ability to rely on oneself to get through a situation, also must work on the other side of knowing when to allow others into your trust to also help you get through a situation. Until I learn to be more comfortable with this part of inner-self, I will still be a long way from mastering this trait. All I can do is be patient and hope that one day I can be as trusting of others with helping me through a situation as I can easily breath air. I need to learn how to apply my inner-self to aide me with my family, friendships, and work environments or I will never be able to relieve the "weight of the world" feelings off my shoulders. The mentality of a person with a lone wolf mentality is simple: "When there is you, there is a way..." We don't make excuses for our shortcomings, we don't mistreat others, and we don't allow other to over-abuse our kindness. Inner-self help regulate my internal mind, soul, and nature. I have not made it this far without relying on my inner-self. But, I also know that I would not have made this far in life without trusting others. Hence, a person with a lone wolf mentality must continue to rely on their inner-self in order to be able keep their mind, body and spirit in harmony in their daily life experiences. I shall continue to strive to make inner-self a part my lone wolf way...

The Lone Wolf vs Realism vs Unorthodox

Realism: the general attempt to depict subjects truthfully.

Unorthodox: not conforming to rules, traditions, or modes of conduct, as of a doctrine, religion, or philosophy; not orthodox.

Today, I was watching a movie of a stage play called, "Passing Strange"where a young man went out in the world in order to find himself through the artistry of music. But, in the end, this young man failed to see that he really didn't need to leave his neighbourhood and the love of his family and friends in order to find his true self.

I have the spirit of a loner. But, overall, in my heart, I love my family (even the ones that don't get me or gets on my nerves a lot). I left my neighbourhood to find myself. Yet, I never forgot where I came from. I am not as sociable person, as I used to be these days; but, I still keep in touch with those that I respect mutually. And, whenever possible, I attempt to "keep it real" with those that keeps it real with me. This is the mentality of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

I don't feel the need to speak to my family friends on a daily basis. I feel the same about anyone that I may casually date. I am not a daily talker. I enjoy keeping my conversations less than ten (10) minutes at a time. I am a person of even fewer words when it comes to texting. I usually respect someone that calls me just to check-in on me or just needed to tell me something important. Empty air during a telephone call bores me. That is the best thing about a person with a long wolf mentality: There is not a need to participate in a long phone call with anyone.

When in public, I usually attempt to keep things neutral with my hangout locations. I am not a fan of house parties and/or happy hour time with coworkers. I figured that everyone enjoys being themselves when they are away from. So, a person would usually allow those to be around them that also share in their same ideal of "fun."  My ideal of fun is simple: Nice, fun restaurants or sports bars, movie theatres, and bowling alleys (in no particular order). A person with a lone wolf mentality would mainly attempt to roam in their familiar surroundings unless forced to do so in order to adjust to a certain situation. For the record, I enjoy having a good time--I just rather enjoy it with those that I consider to be trustworthy and not problematic when they are out in public. A person with a lone wolf mentality doesn't want to draw any bad attention to themselves whenever possible.  

At one time being a "realist" was a main part of my everyday lifestyle. Now, due to the change of time, I am more "unorthodox" with my way of thinking these days than in years past. A person with a lone wolf mentality needed to be unorthodox in order to be able to adjust to the adversities of life. I enjoy not feeling restrictive with my mentality since becoming unorthodox. And, I enjoy doing my own thing. And, I can do it without loosing myself temper or peace of mind. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

The Lone Wolf Mentality: Keeping life simple...

I don't have a reason to be upset with the way that I have been living my life, thus far. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality shouldn't be upset with anyone but themselves, if they are not living the life that they are currently want to live. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is the "masters of their own fate" with their life. So, a person with ta Lone Wolf mentality should do something to better their life if they have any issues with they way that have been living it up until now. There are no excuses for not doing so by now.

Yes, from time to time, our life will be affected by others that may attempt to domesticate us, or make us more docile to their will, during one of their controlled environments. But, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can adjust to the will of another without losing the essence of who they are while enduring through that adjusted environment. There is no shame to a person with a Lone Wolf mentality to adjust to any environment, or circumstance, in order to be able to endure through that ordeal or situation. This is the way of the Lone Wolf's existence. And, while we exist in this world, we attempt to be as much as a positive influence in society as possible. "Damn all others, who may attempt to set themselves against us all around."

Life is a book with many chapters that are yet to be written as we continue to journey through it. The ending of our life's book, is finished when photos, audio/video recordings, or our loved ones' memories of us no longer exist to the point that we are only thought of in spirit. Until then, a person with Lone Wolf mentality shouldn't stay focused on the past when they still have so much to live for in the present. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality respects the lives of those that have came before before us, those that we were blessed to have interacted with while they were still alive, and attempt to pass on their memories onto others until we are no longer able to do so. This should be the basic philosophy of the Lone Wolf way.

I attempt to keep my life as simple as possible. I enjoy chilling from time to time at my place of refuge in order to keep myself grounded. I mingle with others to remember why I need to continue to be a  positive example to others without trying to exert my way of thinking upon others. And, I will continue to stay away from any unnecessary drama as much as possible that may come either my family members or friends. This is how a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can usually keep their life more feasible to endure on a day to day basis. This is my Lone Wolf way...

Lone Wolf vs Life Choices...

As with all things in life, we all will eventually have to die. The question is whether you lived a happy life or not. I can say without certainty that I "am" living a life that makes me happy. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality can sometimes appear to live a very lonely existence by others. But, to a Lone Wolf, "living alone" doesn't mean that they are "feeling alone" in their life. I enjoy the feeling of living by myself. It used to bother me when others look or talk to me as if I am in a sad state of being for never have been married and/or had children. But, now, I see that I have been able to experience more freedom in my life while living alone without having to answer to anyone. I can hang out with whom I want to hang out with. I can spend the night anywhere that I choose to do so without having to check in with anyone. I can just up and move to another location without having to affect anyone that may have been close to me. And, I can choose to stop talking to anyone that I see as an unnecessary burden to me and my self worth without having to give a reason. This is the mentality of a Lone Wolf.  

This past week has been both exhilarating and fun time of my life since I decided to finally leave my dad and half siblings behind in my rear view mirror and move forward with my life without them. I don't feel like I have to "adjust my lifestyle or way of thinking" in order to cater to their personal opinions of me or my indifference of our dad. I even had my best two days of bowling since I released myself of such burdensome thoughts. I not saying that I won't ever stop loving my dad and my half-sibling. I just want to continue to enjoy living the one life that I have without all the drama and criticisms being given off by my dad and half-siblings. Life is too short for that mess. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality cannot afford to worry about anything that they cannot control. When one of the wolf pack is unable to continue to move with the pack, the pack must continue to move forward for the continued survival of their species. When, I cannot continue to move forward with my life with my dad and half-siblings in it, for my peace of well-being, I must move on without them. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality. 

I am sure that I will have to answer for my life choices, eventually. but, for now, I am content with living my life with as little of family drama as possible. So, if letting go of the love ones that seem to think that their opinions or feelings of me matters, in order to enjoy the rest of my life that I may have to live without regrets. Then, this will be my way of the Lone Wolf. 

Lone Wolf vs Internal Sibling Divisions

I am not a fan of having drama in my life. Nor, do I see a need to worry about how others think of the way that I am living my life. I also do not lose any sleep when someone is upset with me about something that has no direct bearing with their life, because of the choices that I make. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

When someone asks for my opinions about something that they are currently dealing with, I give it to them. Otherwise, I keep my opinion to myself while listening to someone telling me about current dilemma. With this being said, I tend to stay away from those that appear to keep unnecessary drama in their lives. I also choose not to be around people that tend to be upset with me because of family members that I choose not to want to communicate with anymore. To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, they tend to learn how to survive on their own for so long others opinions really don't mean that much to them. My decisions to do or not do something sometimes tend to rub others the wrong way. I don't feel that I have to explain myself to anyone that don't agree with my decisions. In same turn, I can respect a decision that someone made with a need for an explanation. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

On Sunday, one of my half-siblings appeared upset with me for not wanting to speak to my dad. This same half-sibling may be upset with me because I told one of my half-siblings that she didn't need to keep checking up on me every week. I am a forty-seven year old adult. I made it through my elementary, junior high, high school, college, and career without their opinions and or lack of support to even want to be in my life during those times. so, I do not see a need for my half-siblings attempt to have any control over my life now. If my half-siblings can't respect my choice to not speak to my dad, or my other half-siblings, I don't need them in my life also. This is the mentality of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

I'll always care about my half-siblings. But, like my dad, they think they can show up during my adult phase of my life and attempt to conform me to their way of thinking about my dad. My half-siblings may have experienced life a little different with dad. But, my dad has been so judgemental with my life, if he isn't bad mouthing my mother to me, I don't need to justify not wanting to be around him. And, since I have been living a good productive lifestyle and career up until now with my dad in my life, I am choosing to keep my dad out of the rest of my life. If this decision of mine upsets my half-siblings, then they don't have to be in my life also. This is my way of the Lone Wolf.

Lone Wolf vs Half-siblings

The day that I have to worry about what my half-siblings think of me or my lifestyle is the day that I am living under their roof. Until, I can care less what my siblings think of me or my lifestyle. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is content with the way they have been living their life is because they do not have to justify their existence or seek approval from anyone. It has nothing to be with me a conceited person or an anarchist. I am just to the point of my life where another person's opinion of me really doesn't matter. My close friends accept this nature about me. My siblings that understand this nature about me and respect it. So, if any of my half-siblings won't accept the way that I am living my life, then those half-siblings don't need to be a part of my life anymore. This is the mentality of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, if a Lone Wolf feels that someone or something is a negative influence or is a negative factor in their live, they choose to let that part of their negative of their life go. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality don't need to give anyone a reason to explain why they made the decision to keep someone out of their life. I am a grown man. I made it this far in life by marching to my own beat of the drum (to coin a phrase). A person with a Lone Wolf mentality will ask for someones opinion when they want someones opinion. Otherwise, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality will always find a way to get through a rough situation or tragedy.

I am 47 years old. I am not a fan of my dad. All my dad has ever done is criticise the way that I have been living my life. I am a single, college educated man that has never been married or divorced. And, I do not have any children (as far I know of). I work in a good career field that can be very challenging and stressful at time. And, I have a pet dog, that I have raised since she was a puppy that house trained and smart. So, overall, I am happy with my life. I can't say the same for most of my siblings. Yet, I am the bad seed of my half-siblings for not caring too much about being around my dad. I am not a fan of my oldest half-brother for a derogatory remark that he once made during one of his drunken stupors in the past. Now that he is an ordained minister, I still can care less about him. An ass hole is still an ass hole no matter if he is an ordained minister. I believe my oldest half-sister is upset with me because I told her that she didn't need to keep checking up on me every week. it was becoming annoying.  

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality enjoys a quiet weekend at home whenever they are able to do so. And, I don't need to explain to a sibling why I don't feel like answering their phone call. Now, my fourth oldest half-brother appears to be upset with me because I either upset my oldest half-sister or won't talk to my dad. He also decided to stress his dismay with me in front of his other bowling buddies when I came by to tell him about dad attempting to call me. I can respect my fourth brother's choice if he doesn't want to talk to me at this time.

With a Lone Wolf mentality, a person don't need to be blood-related to be a sibling of mine. I am blessed to have those that accept me for the person that I am. And, I mutually respect my close friends in return without judgement. Regardless what may happen between me and my half-siblings, life will go on as usual. And, if my half-siblings can't accept they way I am currently living my life, or my choice to not want to communicate with my dad, I don't need to be around them anymore. I was a survivalist before my half-siblings returned to my life; and, I will continue to be a survivalist if my half-siblings choose not to be in my life because of my life choices.  This is my Lone Wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs Time

I'm not really sure how much time I will have to roam this Earth. All that I know is to live my life the best way that I can do. Being a Lone Wolf means to-live ones time as they see fit for their own stability. To attempt to live my life in order to seek the approval of another is not the way of the Lone Wolf. I'm not saying that I am inconsiderate of others during my life's journey. I don't see a Lone Wolf having to worry how others may them as a person. To know a person that possesses a Lone Wolf mentality is to never have to second guess the heart or motives of that person.

I been blessed to have friends that I can consider as being trustworthy. In turn, my friends have come to know me to be a person that have basically been the same person throughout time. A lot of my closest friends have been married, divorced, re-married, have children, even been in some trouble with the law. With the path that I been taking throughout my entire life, a lot of them have come to know me a good guy that hasn't sought marriage or children during their associations with me. I sometimes forget how much time has passed sine I either last talked with them on the cell phone or hung out with them in person. A young women told me a long time ago when I was hounding her about why she hadn't called me lately, "There is no time between friends." Hence, I don't have to worry about loosing the respect of my friends for not contacting them or hanging out with them because the amount of time being too far out to become a worry for them.

Due to the demands and sometimes time restraints placed on me in my line of career, I don't like to have those same time restraints placed on my during my personal life. Now, when I usually make a plan to do something on my personal time, I normally make the time to do it. Or, if I did find someone special to casually date, I also will make time to spend with them. But, overall, I do not like to make any long term plans or commitments with anyone (family or friends), if I don't have to do so. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality will always find a way to take care of the ones that they consider to be precious or loved. So, a Lone Wolf would prioritize their time to the ones closest to them first before all others' demands of their time. And, a Lone Wolf's personal time will always to taken first before any ones demands. If a Lone Wolf do not find time to spend alone, then eventually time will eventually force a Lone Wolf stop and relax until they are well enough to continue with their interaction with the rest of the world.

One my days off, I attempt to make time a factor for me. I have learnt that things that others may want you to do will still happen with or without me being there. It's the weekend, now. I have been relaxing with my cell phone upstairs away from my hearing range. I have been spending time and relaxing with my pet dog with any interruptions from the outside world. And, it feels good to just spend time alone and relax. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality should enjoy the moments alone that they are able to have whenever possible for sanity sake. Anything that may need to be done will still be there the next day to be done. So, for now, I am going to enjoy relaxing and just doing what I would like to do for a change. This is my Lone Wolf way...