The Lone Wolf Mentality: Keeping life simple...

I don't have a reason to be upset with the way that I have been living my life, thus far. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality shouldn't be upset with anyone but themselves, if they are not living the life that they are currently want to live. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is the "masters of their own fate" with their life. So, a person with ta Lone Wolf mentality should do something to better their life if they have any issues with they way that have been living it up until now. There are no excuses for not doing so by now.

Yes, from time to time, our life will be affected by others that may attempt to domesticate us, or make us more docile to their will, during one of their controlled environments. But, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can adjust to the will of another without losing the essence of who they are while enduring through that adjusted environment. There is no shame to a person with a Lone Wolf mentality to adjust to any environment, or circumstance, in order to be able to endure through that ordeal or situation. This is the way of the Lone Wolf's existence. And, while we exist in this world, we attempt to be as much as a positive influence in society as possible. "Damn all others, who may attempt to set themselves against us all around."

Life is a book with many chapters that are yet to be written as we continue to journey through it. The ending of our life's book, is finished when photos, audio/video recordings, or our loved ones' memories of us no longer exist to the point that we are only thought of in spirit. Until then, a person with Lone Wolf mentality shouldn't stay focused on the past when they still have so much to live for in the present. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality respects the lives of those that have came before before us, those that we were blessed to have interacted with while they were still alive, and attempt to pass on their memories onto others until we are no longer able to do so. This should be the basic philosophy of the Lone Wolf way.

I attempt to keep my life as simple as possible. I enjoy chilling from time to time at my place of refuge in order to keep myself grounded. I mingle with others to remember why I need to continue to be a  positive example to others without trying to exert my way of thinking upon others. And, I will continue to stay away from any unnecessary drama as much as possible that may come either my family members or friends. This is how a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can usually keep their life more feasible to endure on a day to day basis. This is my Lone Wolf way...

Lone Wolf vs Life Choices...

As with all things in life, we all will eventually have to die. The question is whether you lived a happy life or not. I can say without certainty that I "am" living a life that makes me happy. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality can sometimes appear to live a very lonely existence by others. But, to a Lone Wolf, "living alone" doesn't mean that they are "feeling alone" in their life. I enjoy the feeling of living by myself. It used to bother me when others look or talk to me as if I am in a sad state of being for never have been married and/or had children. But, now, I see that I have been able to experience more freedom in my life while living alone without having to answer to anyone. I can hang out with whom I want to hang out with. I can spend the night anywhere that I choose to do so without having to check in with anyone. I can just up and move to another location without having to affect anyone that may have been close to me. And, I can choose to stop talking to anyone that I see as an unnecessary burden to me and my self worth without having to give a reason. This is the mentality of a Lone Wolf.  

This past week has been both exhilarating and fun time of my life since I decided to finally leave my dad and half siblings behind in my rear view mirror and move forward with my life without them. I don't feel like I have to "adjust my lifestyle or way of thinking" in order to cater to their personal opinions of me or my indifference of our dad. I even had my best two days of bowling since I released myself of such burdensome thoughts. I not saying that I won't ever stop loving my dad and my half-sibling. I just want to continue to enjoy living the one life that I have without all the drama and criticisms being given off by my dad and half-siblings. Life is too short for that mess. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality cannot afford to worry about anything that they cannot control. When one of the wolf pack is unable to continue to move with the pack, the pack must continue to move forward for the continued survival of their species. When, I cannot continue to move forward with my life with my dad and half-siblings in it, for my peace of well-being, I must move on without them. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality. 

I am sure that I will have to answer for my life choices, eventually. but, for now, I am content with living my life with as little of family drama as possible. So, if letting go of the love ones that seem to think that their opinions or feelings of me matters, in order to enjoy the rest of my life that I may have to live without regrets. Then, this will be my way of the Lone Wolf. 

Lone Wolf vs Internal Sibling Divisions

I am not a fan of having drama in my life. Nor, do I see a need to worry about how others think of the way that I am living my life. I also do not lose any sleep when someone is upset with me about something that has no direct bearing with their life, because of the choices that I make. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

When someone asks for my opinions about something that they are currently dealing with, I give it to them. Otherwise, I keep my opinion to myself while listening to someone telling me about current dilemma. With this being said, I tend to stay away from those that appear to keep unnecessary drama in their lives. I also choose not to be around people that tend to be upset with me because of family members that I choose not to want to communicate with anymore. To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, they tend to learn how to survive on their own for so long others opinions really don't mean that much to them. My decisions to do or not do something sometimes tend to rub others the wrong way. I don't feel that I have to explain myself to anyone that don't agree with my decisions. In same turn, I can respect a decision that someone made with a need for an explanation. This is the way of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

On Sunday, one of my half-siblings appeared upset with me for not wanting to speak to my dad. This same half-sibling may be upset with me because I told one of my half-siblings that she didn't need to keep checking up on me every week. I am a forty-seven year old adult. I made it through my elementary, junior high, high school, college, and career without their opinions and or lack of support to even want to be in my life during those times. so, I do not see a need for my half-siblings attempt to have any control over my life now. If my half-siblings can't respect my choice to not speak to my dad, or my other half-siblings, I don't need them in my life also. This is the mentality of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

I'll always care about my half-siblings. But, like my dad, they think they can show up during my adult phase of my life and attempt to conform me to their way of thinking about my dad. My half-siblings may have experienced life a little different with dad. But, my dad has been so judgemental with my life, if he isn't bad mouthing my mother to me, I don't need to justify not wanting to be around him. And, since I have been living a good productive lifestyle and career up until now with my dad in my life, I am choosing to keep my dad out of the rest of my life. If this decision of mine upsets my half-siblings, then they don't have to be in my life also. This is my way of the Lone Wolf.

Lone Wolf vs Half-siblings

The day that I have to worry about what my half-siblings think of me or my lifestyle is the day that I am living under their roof. Until, I can care less what my siblings think of me or my lifestyle. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is content with the way they have been living their life is because they do not have to justify their existence or seek approval from anyone. It has nothing to be with me a conceited person or an anarchist. I am just to the point of my life where another person's opinion of me really doesn't matter. My close friends accept this nature about me. My siblings that understand this nature about me and respect it. So, if any of my half-siblings won't accept the way that I am living my life, then those half-siblings don't need to be a part of my life anymore. This is the mentality of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

To a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, if a Lone Wolf feels that someone or something is a negative influence or is a negative factor in their live, they choose to let that part of their negative of their life go. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality don't need to give anyone a reason to explain why they made the decision to keep someone out of their life. I am a grown man. I made it this far in life by marching to my own beat of the drum (to coin a phrase). A person with a Lone Wolf mentality will ask for someones opinion when they want someones opinion. Otherwise, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality will always find a way to get through a rough situation or tragedy.

I am 47 years old. I am not a fan of my dad. All my dad has ever done is criticise the way that I have been living my life. I am a single, college educated man that has never been married or divorced. And, I do not have any children (as far I know of). I work in a good career field that can be very challenging and stressful at time. And, I have a pet dog, that I have raised since she was a puppy that house trained and smart. So, overall, I am happy with my life. I can't say the same for most of my siblings. Yet, I am the bad seed of my half-siblings for not caring too much about being around my dad. I am not a fan of my oldest half-brother for a derogatory remark that he once made during one of his drunken stupors in the past. Now that he is an ordained minister, I still can care less about him. An ass hole is still an ass hole no matter if he is an ordained minister. I believe my oldest half-sister is upset with me because I told her that she didn't need to keep checking up on me every week. it was becoming annoying.  

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality enjoys a quiet weekend at home whenever they are able to do so. And, I don't need to explain to a sibling why I don't feel like answering their phone call. Now, my fourth oldest half-brother appears to be upset with me because I either upset my oldest half-sister or won't talk to my dad. He also decided to stress his dismay with me in front of his other bowling buddies when I came by to tell him about dad attempting to call me. I can respect my fourth brother's choice if he doesn't want to talk to me at this time.

With a Lone Wolf mentality, a person don't need to be blood-related to be a sibling of mine. I am blessed to have those that accept me for the person that I am. And, I mutually respect my close friends in return without judgement. Regardless what may happen between me and my half-siblings, life will go on as usual. And, if my half-siblings can't accept they way I am currently living my life, or my choice to not want to communicate with my dad, I don't need to be around them anymore. I was a survivalist before my half-siblings returned to my life; and, I will continue to be a survivalist if my half-siblings choose not to be in my life because of my life choices.  This is my Lone Wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs Time

I'm not really sure how much time I will have to roam this Earth. All that I know is to live my life the best way that I can do. Being a Lone Wolf means to-live ones time as they see fit for their own stability. To attempt to live my life in order to seek the approval of another is not the way of the Lone Wolf. I'm not saying that I am inconsiderate of others during my life's journey. I don't see a Lone Wolf having to worry how others may them as a person. To know a person that possesses a Lone Wolf mentality is to never have to second guess the heart or motives of that person.

I been blessed to have friends that I can consider as being trustworthy. In turn, my friends have come to know me to be a person that have basically been the same person throughout time. A lot of my closest friends have been married, divorced, re-married, have children, even been in some trouble with the law. With the path that I been taking throughout my entire life, a lot of them have come to know me a good guy that hasn't sought marriage or children during their associations with me. I sometimes forget how much time has passed sine I either last talked with them on the cell phone or hung out with them in person. A young women told me a long time ago when I was hounding her about why she hadn't called me lately, "There is no time between friends." Hence, I don't have to worry about loosing the respect of my friends for not contacting them or hanging out with them because the amount of time being too far out to become a worry for them.

Due to the demands and sometimes time restraints placed on me in my line of career, I don't like to have those same time restraints placed on my during my personal life. Now, when I usually make a plan to do something on my personal time, I normally make the time to do it. Or, if I did find someone special to casually date, I also will make time to spend with them. But, overall, I do not like to make any long term plans or commitments with anyone (family or friends), if I don't have to do so. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality will always find a way to take care of the ones that they consider to be precious or loved. So, a Lone Wolf would prioritize their time to the ones closest to them first before all others' demands of their time. And, a Lone Wolf's personal time will always to taken first before any ones demands. If a Lone Wolf do not find time to spend alone, then eventually time will eventually force a Lone Wolf stop and relax until they are well enough to continue with their interaction with the rest of the world.

One my days off, I attempt to make time a factor for me. I have learnt that things that others may want you to do will still happen with or without me being there. It's the weekend, now. I have been relaxing with my cell phone upstairs away from my hearing range. I have been spending time and relaxing with my pet dog with any interruptions from the outside world. And, it feels good to just spend time alone and relax. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality should enjoy the moments alone that they are able to have whenever possible for sanity sake. Anything that may need to be done will still be there the next day to be done. So, for now, I am going to enjoy relaxing and just doing what I would like to do for a change. This is my Lone Wolf way...

The Lone Wolf way vs Religion, love, hate, and all the things in between...

Lone Wolf and Religion: I am unorthodox with my religiousness believes. Meaning, that I am a spiritual person without feeling the need to impose my religious views on anyone. I say this not about myself to suggest that a person with the mentality of the Lone Wolf feels the same way that I do about religion. I 'm not saying that at all. I am only stating that whatever a Lone Wolf believe or not believe in regards to religion should be of their own free will.

I used to get all stressed out with other telling me that, "The Bible say this..." or "The Bible says that.." about me not being married. I don't believe that God will not allow me into Heaven, if I don't ever meet anyone to marry. And, any religion that believes in a God that won't let a single person enter Heaven because that choose to live a single, stress-free life, is not a religion that I choose to follow. When it comes to religion, this is my Lone Wolf way...

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Lone Wolf and Love: I love the ideal of being "in love", yet I can't seem to allow myself to " fully commit" to a more relationship with a potential soul mate.  Again, this has nothing to do with a person with a Lone Wolf mentality. But, it is consistent with our dating lifestyle. A person with a Lone Wolf is very cautious about the people that they allow into their "circle of trust". The gauge being to rises as their relationship with someone become more serious.

As I stated before, I sorta describe myself as feeling more "claustrophobic" as a woman began to display symptoms of wanting our "causal" dating relationship to become something more.

Question: Why am I "stubborn" about not wanting to be in an serious relationship with someone?
Answer: I am not stubborn. I choose to not enter into a serious relationship cause, up until now, I don't usually see a future with that person that I am causally dating.

I know that I may be choosing these women on purpose in order to stay out of serious relationships. But, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality knows what they want out of life. If I ever meet a woman that seems effortlessly natural whenever I am around them, then I know she is the woman that I would like to pursue a more serious relationship with them. And, this is my Lone Wolf way.

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Lone Wolf and Hate: To dwell on hate, is not a healthy to do for anyone. I am sorta moronic with that previous sentence in that I also allow my hate to fester inside about someone instead of "getting it out in the open" with them. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality would most likely rather just avoid or no longer be around anyone that they deem as a "negative person". To give a person a moment of your hatred, is give that person power over your emotions and well-being. I can't live that with my life. Lately, I decided to be more "civil"  with those that I used to allow to affect me in a negative way. I also, in turn, chose to be around anyone that have a negative affect on me.

Question: How do I deal with those coworkers at work that have a negative influence on you?
Answer: I choose to do the opposite of what they expected me to behave from their negative actions.

Of course, it is definitely "easier said than done" on some days than others while at work. But, I am getting better at it day by day. This is my Lone Wolf way.

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Lone Wolf and All the things in between: Overall, my life is as good as a single person can expect out of life. I never been married, I don't have any children, and I own a pet that is both house trained and smart. I make enough money to pay my bills and enjoy life a little. I am about to be able to have a little extra money in the bank for those upcoming "rainy days". And, I feel like I have a blessed life. Most importantly, I don't feel feel lonely.

This past Saturday, I hung out with a person that I have come to known as a friend. He cleaned up and updated my computer while we caught up on things. My friend and I get along well with each other because he and I share the "Lone Wolf"  mentality even though we both are coming from two different spectrum in life to get to the way that we are now. We are single guys ad we are both okay with it. We both would like to find that special woman to share our lives with, but we are patient to meet this potential person. And, we are both enjoying our new stress-free apartments.

Being a Lone Wolf is a way of thought. Like everything else in life, a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can successfully thrive in a serious relationship. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. there is nothing wrong with us. If a person wants to be single for the rest of their life, then is okay also. I don't see the rest of my life as a single person. I'm just not ready to be in a serious relationship, either. When it comes to "all things in between" I'm happy with where I am with social, work, and personal life. Where I'll go with my life is up to me and me only. And, I this is my Lone Wolf way...

The Lone Wolf Mentality: Room 101...

No one can truly be a person with a Lone Wolf mentality until one can come to first love, respect, believe, and compose ones self. This is the basic feelings of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

Question: How can a person ever be happy with them self even with the problems that they are current dealing with?
Answer: Lao Tzu is credited for this quote: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." 

I took this quote in meaning that Lao Tzu believed that any struggles that someone may be experiencing in their lives can be overcome if they attempt to handle one issue at a time instead of trying to tackle it all at once. This is the quote that I, as a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, have come to rely upon even during my lowest of times. When a person with a Lone Wolf mentality can come to this level of realisation and acceptability with them self, then their life's problems or hardships don't appear to be too impossible to handle. Others also come to see a person that possesses a Lone Wolf mentality as be a person that displays a humbling confidence about them self. We are usually easily approachable. And, ironically, we work well with a team during tasks or assignments. And, we attempt to steadily using "... Journey of a thousand miles..." metaphors from their personal experiences during our encouragements and constructive advice with others.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality tends to rely on their past experiences and hardships when they are dispensing advice or comforting support to someone. And, people with a Lone Wolf mentalities usually end up gravitating towards one another and develop a good trusting because of their similarly experienced problems and hardships. People with Lone Wolf mentalities will always very feel relaxed and trusting around each other while hanging out together. Even when time has passed between two of them, people with Lone Wolf mentalities don't let that be an issue between them because they both acknowledge and respect each others need to enjoy their spatial boundaries, or personal space.

Yesterday, the woman that I ended our dating relationship with called me. I continued to provide a supportive conversation with her during our telephone call; but, this time is was more of the role of a good friend rather than someone that was dating her. I stayed away from any conversation during our phone call that drifted into the question of us possibly resuming a dating relationship. I just wanted this woman to know and feel that I was proud of her new promotion and career move to another casino that appears to value her culinary and professional experience. I have been encouraging woman all things will become possible for her as long as she takes it one day at a time. And, I was glad that this woman felt that she could still contact me to talk with each other as friends.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is not really that hard to figure out cause we attempt to keep things that are occurring in our life as simple as possible. We see life a being to short for drama; and, we tend to repel ourselves away from those that seem to want to constantly keep drama in their lives. A person with a Lone Wolf mentality usually find creative ways to spend their alone time. We allow pets to be apart of our personal space. And, we have no problem being able to be frank and honest with another people when the need arises. To be honest with ones self and others is the typical foundation of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.

When it comes to the essence of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality, it is something that a person ever needs to say to another like-minded person that they may encounter. We will usually pick up that "vibe" from each other instantly from the moment we began conversing with each other. We can be sometime be misunderstood by society as being either "anti-social"; but, that stereotype is immediately dispelled after spending some time with us. I enjoy my Lone Wolf mentality. I have gotten this far in life with it.

A person with a Lone Wolf mentality is possessing a never-ending way of thinking during the span of their lifetime. I believe that I'm a better person in my personal life and at work because of this mentality. If I also managed to find that special someone during my journey to obtain a more healthier, secure, and stable lifestyle, then that would be a definite bonus. So, taking matters into their own hands in order to improve their own well-being and lifestyle is the objective of a person with a Lone Wolf mentality.