The Lone Wolf vs Friends with selfish agendas towards them...

What does a person with a lone wolf mentality do when they are aware of a person that has a selfish agenda towards them?

This is one of the questions that I have been asking myself for many years since I began this life's journey in an attempt to discover what makes a person want to have a lone wolf mentality.  Even up until now, I really don't have an answer to this question. I am happy being single. I love the freedom to do what I want to do, go where I want to go, and be whom I want to be without worrying about affecting a significant other in my life. I am not a relationship type of person; and, I am okay with that fact about myself. Any woman that attempt to change frame of thought about relationships is only going to end their efforts in self heartbreak for them. I am who I am with no apologies, when it comes to my personal views towards relationships.

A person with a lone wolf mentality does not like the feeling of being controlled, of being restricted, and of being domesticated even at the expense of hurting the feelings of another that would like to have a relationship with them. It is futile to attempt to enter into a serious relationship with a person that has a lone wolf mentality, especially if that person is not mutually attracted to them. In fact, a person with an "infatuation" or "crush" on a person with a lone wolf mentality will only be heading towards an awkwardness of friendship, then personal heartache of being rejected as a friend, and eventually isolated from that lone wolf's life all together. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

A person with a lone wolf mentality "only loves whom they may love."  If the object of a lone wolf's affection doesn't feel the same way towards them, that lone wolf will either choose to be in the "friend zone" with that person; or, the lone wolf would just remove himself or herself from that person's life all together. There won't be unnecessary drama from a person with a lone wolf mentality if they are rejected by the object of their affection because that is not our way of being. A person with a lone wolf mentality is not into causing anyone any drama in their life. We treat others as we would like to be treated. All life is sacred to a person with a lone wolf mentality.  And, life is too short to spent being angry, negative, and/or depressed over the things that we cannot control or have. A person with a lone wolf mentality is a wanderer by nature, so we will know when it is time for us as a person to move one to the next episode of our lives. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality. This is my way as a person.

A person with a lone wolf mentality feels that it is imperative to be respectable and considerate of others in their personal and professional life. So, when one of a lone wolf's friends unnecessarily  and immaturely confronts another one of lone wolf's friends, that  lone wolf will usually began to distance himself or herself from that person due their selfish agenda towards them. From my experiences, people with selfish agendas usually act without thought of how their actions or behaviour may appear or affect others that they are confronting, which can be problematic to a lone wolf's pack of family and/or close friends. We, as lone wolves, shouldn't have anyone that show a capacity to be jealous or resentful in nature of others in our pack. This is the one exception to a person with a lone wolf mentality: There are times when pack of wolves that are on the same page in life or better than a group of individuals. Those people who claims to be a friend of a lone wolf, who causes drama or static for their own selfish agendas with other friends of the lone wolf, should be immediately removed from that lone wolf's circle of close friends for the safety and well-being of the whole pack. Maintaining the safety and well-being of their family and circle of close friends should be a priority of a person with a lone wolf mentality from those with a selfish agenda towards them.

Do not ever mistaken the friendship and kindness of a person with a lone wolf mentality as being naive to the selfish agendas of another. Awareness of others' selfish agendas usually become immediately known to a lone wolf. A person with a lone wolf mentality only weakness is giving too many people the "benefit of the doubt"with their agendas towards them. In order to maintain a positive way of life with himself or herself, a person with a lone wolf mentality must not allow those with selfish agendas into their inner sanctum of family and close friends. If a person with selfish agendas towards a person with a lone wolf mentality towards them is validated from more than one source, it would best for the lone wolf to limit their personal interactions with that person. This is the mind of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

Lone Wolf vs Workplace Romances

I live by the saying, "One should never attempt to domesticate a lone wolf. It is a waste of time to attempt to do so." If a person happens to domesticate a lone wolf, then that lone wolf would cease being the independent spirit that made them natural and unique in the world. The mentality of a lone wolf is to "voluntarily" choose to end their daily life of solitude in order to be with that special someone that they view to be their compatible soul mate.  And, the older a lone wolf becomes, the more patient (stubborn) they becomes against another person's advances towards them until they have finally came across their better half.

Now, let's relate the context of this blog to the mentality of a lone wolf in the workplace. I, personally, do not believe in workplace romances. I see no need to date someone in my personal life and then see them on a daily basis at work. I believe in the saying that "Absence makes the heart  grow fonder". In a perfect world, I live for the day that I can meet with my special someone at the end of the work day to talk about how our day went at our jobs. But, I don't believe that I would have that same mentality if I worked at the same place with my significant other. Let's just think about this for a second: You live together, you wake up for work together, you get dressed at the same time to be able to head off to work together, you eat breakfast together, you then leave for work together, you then arrive at work together, you may even cross each other throughout the work day, you may end up eating lunch together,you may cross each other some more throughout the rest of the work day, you leave work together, and you arrive home together, you eat dinner together, and you eventually go to bed together in order to be able to go to work together the next day. And, these daily activities would occur every day of the week, for every week of the month, for every month of a year. This is not the mentality of a lone wolf. 

I say all of this because, today, I was chatting with a woman that works out of one of the departments that I frequent as part of my daily work duties. We've know each other since I first arrived at that job in 2005. But, I also knew her before I came to that location to work. So, I know her a couple of years before work at that same place. Even though we are of different races, we get along with each just fine. We even used to be on the same softball team. I enjoy just being friends with this woman because I do not believe in workplace dating or romances. Yet, my friend has always threw out "little flirts"  as if she was interested in being more than friends. in the past. Plus, she would would attempt to find ways to attempt to interact with me away from work. now, before we worked together, this was not a problem especially while we were on the same softball team. We would hang out together in a platonic friendship. But now, since we are working around each other at the same place, we mainly hang out together in public places. So, today, my friend asked me about why we don't even talk on the phone like we we used to do before when I wasn't working around her. And, I told my friend, without missing a beat, "Cause, I enjoy having my personal life separate from my work life." 

The more my ole friend attempted to justify why we should be dating each other, the more uncomfortable I was getting by just being around her; and, I felt that we just needed to keep our friendship strictly on a professional level between us. The ideal of dating a woman that I work with is a definite turnoff for me. I like my "me time" when I get home. I like the ideal of getting in touch with my friends when I feel like contacting them. I like the ideal of not having to speak to anyone when I feel don't feel like it. I really enjoy the peace and quiet times at home. My family members, friends, and coworkers know and respect this one simple fact about me.This is the way of the lone wolf. And, don't get me wrong about my friend. I think she is a very attractive, smart, and wonderful woman. But, regardless of her race, I wouldn't date her even if we were the same race because I just don't date my coworkers. This is the one constant rule that I haven't deviated from since I began working a fulltime job in 1990. If the truth be known, I really do enjoy being a lone wolf. 

Epilogue of today's events, my friend and I agreed that it would be better to to keep our interaction with each other strictly professional. This will allow her to pursue a potential relationship with someone else that could recipitate her feelings. I am happy hanging out with current my lady friend, who is also a fan of "casual dating" like I am. We seem to be getting along fine whenever we are hanging out together with no strings attached. And, most importantly, she doesn't work at the same place where work together, she works with her father, which is a definite turn on for me because I am not a fan of workplace romances. And, this is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality...

Lone Wolf vs The daily challenges of life...

On a daily basis, I must deal with the struggles of life whether I want to do so or not. Some days are easier than others. Some matters must take priorities over others. But, in the end, some things will sometimes be out of your ability to control or resolve for that day or ever. A person with a lone wolf mentality must comes to terms with the latter sentence, including me.

How do I deal with the fact that I am sometimes not the
"Master of my Universe"? Well, I've been saying a mantra that seems to get me through those uncontrollable situations or times, "... It is what it is..."  This is as simple as a mantra that I can give myself to get through those days where I am about to feel overwhelmed with worry over something personal, work-related, or even financial. Otherwise, I would just give up on everything and let everything that have ever gained in life just slip away. This is not the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

I seem to be a person that is emotionally driven when facing a challenge in my life. The greater the challenge that I am facing for my situation, the more I seem to become more motivated to get through that situation. What's funny to me is that a lot of these struggles in life can usually be attributed to me causing them. So, of course, I will have to be the one to figure out a way to get through my "screw ups". I just hate to admit to myself when I must come to terms with myself when I cannot solve my own problems and must leave it to others to help me with my problems. I think I feel this way cause I fear how others will think of me for not being about to solve me own problems. Silly, I know. But, I can't help how I feel. This is one of the side effects of being a person of a lone wolf mentality: I fear the chance that someone that you have helped in the past won't come back to return the favour.  So, I choose not to even ask a friend for assistance in thinking that they will disappointment me in not helping me in my time of need. This has been my lone wolf way.

But, in perspective, if I didn't have these challenges in life to face, I wouldn't know what I am capable of accomplishing on my own without others helping me. Everyone experiences life's "ups and downs" on a daily basis. As much as it pains me, I have things in my life that I hate dealing with and having to depends on others for assistance. But, "It is what it is." A person with a lone wolf mentality must accept that fact and move on with their life. This is my lone wolf way...

Lone Wolf vs Relationships with family members and friends...

Relationship: the mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, people, etc.

     When it comes to personal relationships, I don't do well with them. I must have been living alone for so long that the thought of being in either a committed or meaningful relationship with anyone is not an option to me at this stage of my life. In general, I do love people as a whole. But, I don't just feel the need to talk or hang out with my family members or friends on a daily basis is necessary. This comes from the mentality that time seems irrelevant to me. Meaning, whether if it has been at least a day to six months to a year, I enjoy talking with the family members and friends that just pick up where we last left off during the last communications instead of having me to explain to them why I haven't spoken to them sooner. This is the mentality of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

     A person with a lone wolf mentality don't feel the need to justify how they choose to live their life to anyone for any reason. To a person with a lone wolf mentality, their most trusted family members and friends understand and respect our decisions to do or not do something without having to explain or justify those decisions that we've made. So, by nature, a lone wolf don't have issues with being people, we just feel more serene when we choose to be alone when we feel like being alone. This is our lone wolf way.

I may have mentioned in the past that I have been called "stubborn" for having this mentality. And, I still see differently. The word "stubborn"  is mainly used by those that just don't understand nor respect our decision to want to be left alone from time to time. Unless a lone wolf meets someone that doesn't make them feel like being around or communicating with them on a daily basis, the lone wolf will eventually become less and less interested in talking or hanging out with that person that cannot seem "to leave them alone" on a daily (or even a weekly) basis. I can't really explain why I feel this way about myself. I just do. This is my lone wolf way.

I've know I may haven even upset a lot of family members and friends with this need to be alone or not called as much as they may have wanted to call me. But, I rather be honest with my feelings than keep these "frame of mind" to myself. This is my life. I only have the one to live. So, I choose to live this life to my pursuit of happiness. For example, after a long day of work, I enjoy relaxing at my place with my pet dog. If not that, I also enjoy going to the gym to workout alone while listening to my music. And, if not that, I enjoy bowling. All of these things that I choose to do alone is very therapeutic to me in mind, body, and spirit. This is my lone wolf way.

I love my family members and friends. I can't deny that fact. But, when my family members and friends either give people that I don't know in our group setting my real name, or they tell others what I do for a career choice, it puts me in an immediate frame of mind to not want to interact with anyone much longer that I need to be. I will even begin to start shutting down with others the longer I stay in that type of environment, because I don't feel that their family members or friends don't need to know my real name or profession. This is why I am not the kind of person that like to attend house parties or certain family gatherings where my real name (instead of my nickname) or profession is broad casted out to those whom I see no need to know this information about me. The less people that know my real name or the profession that I currently work, the more I can enjoy the moment with others. This is just the way I feel as a person with a lone wolf mentality.

If you see by now, I don't see myself ever being married or even engaged with someone special in the near future. If I do find someone to share my life with, that woman must be of the same kinship in mentality and spirit with each other for this ever occur. And, I don't see that happening in my life at this time. And, I am okay with this possible outcome of the relationship part of my life. I once had a coworker ask me do I ever worry about dying alone due to me not being married. And, I responded with a simple, "No." The coworker then threw that Bible in my face about the need to be married to someone. In my mind I was saying, "I don't see a God that would not allow me into Heaven because I choose to not be married." Mind you, this person was single them self while they were trying to get me to think about marrying someone. How moronic and disrespectful to judge and try to do such a thing. I rather be single and happy than married and miserable. This is my lone wolf mentality.

A person with a lone wolf mentality also goes by the saying, "... It is what it is..." And, if I happen to be alone at the end of my lifespan, then "it will be what it is" when it is all said and done with my life. And, I will be okay with that outcome of my life. I have no regrets with my life. If I've ever hurt anyone due to anything on my part, then I apologise. And, I already forgiven those that I done wrong to me. Life is too short to hold grudges with anyone. So, I have chosen to just not hang out or further communicate with those that I feel will be or is a negative part of my life. This is my lone wolf mentality.

So, in closing, I just wanted to let others know that I do love people as a whole. I just find myself even more content living a lot of my "free time" alone. I enjoy the special moments with my family members. And, I attempt to make the most of the few occasions that I get to spend with my close friends. I just don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone during the times that I don't feel like being around anyone. It's really irrelevant whether anyone wants to understand or respect this part of me. Just like I can respect my family members and friends when they don't want to be around or talk to me whenever that they choose to do so. So, I need them either respect me; or let me be because I don't have to explain my need to be alone at times. The same goes for why I am not currently in a relationship. "It is what it is" when it comes to that part of my life. This is my lone wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs Anxiety...

Anxiety: an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension, and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one's capacity to cope with it.

There isn't a day that I don't feel alone in the world. And, when I say that I feel "alone", I don't mean in a "lonely" way. When I am referring to myself as feeling "alone", I am talking about the feeling that nothing will ever be accomplished in my life, whether it be personal or work, unless I" find a way to motivate myself into doing whatever the objective or mission that needs to be done. A typical day begins with me having to motivate myself to getting out of bed in order to begin the day. Then, I must then motivate myself to getting myself ready to clean myself up and get dressed in order to continue through the day. Then, I must find a way to stay motivated to see my way through whatever issues that I may have to encounter and/or resolve in order to make it through the end of the day. And, then, I must be able to motivate myself to finally allow myself return to my bed in order to rest up for another day. Most of the time, it takes my dog to bark enough times to let me know that it is time for "us" to got to bed. And, of course, I head to me bedroom, in order to cease my dog from barking. Dang dog. This has been my lone wolf way since 1997. 

I say all of this not to sound like I have any problems with the way I have been currently living my life. I am just saying that some days are more easier to motivate myself to get out of bed than others. Today, I was suppose to attend my 40 year high school reunion banquet. I began feeling my blood pressure rising, my ear beginning to ache, and my head beginning to hurt as the time to began getting myself dressed to go to this event was nearing. I finally got to the point where I knew why I was feeling this way as the deadline for me to get dressed was nearing: I really didn't want to go to my 40 year class reunion banquet. I got out of my chair only to walk my dog, then feed my dog, then made myself something to eat, and I finally returned to my chair in order to attempt to reduce my blood pressure. I began taking some supplements and finally a blood pressure pill in order to reduce my blood pressure that was steadily climbing by the minute today. Once I saw the 5:00 p.m. for my deadline to dress had passed, I began to feel the aching in my ear and headaches reducing. I feel bad that I won't be making the high school reunion event; yet, health wise, I seem to be coming down from my "anxiety" moment. A person with a lone wolf mentality shouldn't be having any type of anxiety moment.  But, here I am with one.

As you know, a person with a lone wolf mentality, is not a social person by nature. But, we do manage to find the strength such social event when needed to do so. I should never have to feel like having to do anything during my personal time. I should never feel "stressed" for not wanting to attend any event during my personal time. And, I shouldn't have to feel "guilty" for not living up to others expectations of me during my personal time. I enjoy life. I enjoy living life. I also enjoy what life has to offer me. I just want to be able to live my life the way that I want to live it. Anxiety isn't suppose to be a part of my life; and, I have been recently working on ways to improve my health (again) in order to get a better handle on my anxiety issues. I'll get through this anxiety issue. I know that I will get through this anxiety issue. This is my lone wolf way.

I'm tired now. But, I am feeling better. So, I'm going to go and relax now in order to get through the rest of this day. A person with a lone wolf mentality usually knows when to stop and rest in order to heal. So, this is me needing to stop and rest in order to heal. I'll be glad when this latest health issue is behind me...

Lone Wolf vs Unnecessary drama...

Drama: Drama is when people bring about unnecessary hardships in their own and/or others lives. People with drama are usually immature and their personalities are seriously lacking in regards to the respect of others. 

A person with a lone wolf mentality is generally not a socialite by nature. But, we tend to adapt to our surroundings, whenever needed. Lone wolves must be willing to also walk amongst society in order to survive. That is a fact. Don't get me wrong. I enjoy being people whenever I need to be. Yet, I am more happier when I am all by myself. This is my lone wolf way. 

At times, I catch myself looking at the people that I am around and wonder why people tend to want to keep some type of drama on purpose in their life. I tend to not understand why there are people in this world that choose to want to more of a pain others than they really need to be. A lot of times I rather enjoy doing something on my own than having to deal with anyone that rather attempt to make the event more about themselves than about the group as a whole. With that being said, I am not anti-social. I am really quite the opposite. I enjoy interacting with people; but, I just choose to find as much "me time" as I can possibly obtain. "Me time" is my sanctuary away from the unnecessary drama and insanity of the world. This is my lone wolf way. 

I never want to be a potential contributor to any ones' self-fulfilling drama. There is nothing wrong with venting with someone that you trust. that's what friends do for one another. But, a person with a lone wolf mentality have to be really cautious with those they may choose to confide their innermost problems and/or issues. Regardless, a person with a lone wolf mentality will never be known a person "with drama".  Drama is something negative; and, I am not about the negativity in my life. 

A person with a lone wolf mentality tends to stay away from unnecessary drama. There is nothing to be gained from allowing unnecessary drama into their lives. I've stayed away from relationships, at the drop of a hat, if I met a woman that seemed to want to keep some type of unnecessary drama in their life. I let go of friends with unnecessary drama in their lives even faster. And, any associates with unnecessary drama in their lives don't even have my cell phone number; or, I don't answer their texts or phone calls.  

Am I wrong for having this type of mentality when it comes to unnecessary drama. Well, get over it because deep down inside you know that I am right about this subject. If you enjoy hanging out with people that choose to keep unnecessary drama in their lives, then you have to search deep inside of yourself to find out why. Do you see your life being so insignificant that you have to keep people with that type of drama around you? Are you afraid of hurting their feelings if you remove these type of people from your life? Or, do you think you can somehow attempt to help these type of people through their unnecessary drama? If you answer "yes"  to any of these questions, then you fail to realise that you are also a person that have "unnecessary drama" in your life.  

A person with a lone wolf mentality should rather choose to face the wilderness alone in the blistering cold than to hang out with anyone that feel like they must have unnecessary drama in their own life. This is my lone wolf way.

Lone Wolf vs History...

History (noun):  the whole series of past events connected with someone or something

I don't know how many lives that I will live. I don't don't really know if anyone can know that information. the question that should be better asked, "Would I want to know what history is ever going to say about my existence?" And, my answer would simple be, "No."

A person with a lone wolf mentality doesn't see the need to measure time during their existence, when you are talking about ones own life span. I learnt from my past predecessors and my own mistakes. I live for the present. And, I strive to live a very happy future. This is my lone wolf way.

I have not been taking care of myself lately as in earlier months of this year. I can only blame myself for my current health status. But, I hope to improve my health status within the next week. I have no other choice but to do so. A person with a lone wolf mentality must first sustained one's own life in order to be able to leave any type of legacy for the future. At this time I don't believe I have done too many things to have left such a legacy yet; but, I would like to think that if I do leave this world before I accomplish that goal, I would hope that I have currently done enough selfless acts during my lifetime to have still left some type of positive impression in someone's life. And, if so, that be a peaceful blessing to me when I am physically no longer of this world. This is my lone wolf way.

A person with a lone wolf mentality shouldn't obsess over the little things. We shouldn't even obsess over the things that we can't control. A person with a lone wolf mentality shouldn't not also add to any of the drama that may currently exist in this world. Either we exist to be of a positive nature in this world, we attempt to live away from the society of this world, or their are some that choose to do both. Anybody that reports to have a lone wolf mentality that participates in any acts of a negative nature or becomes a public menace to society are not in the true sense of the word, a "lone wolf". Those lone wolves that choose to wrong or harm others should better be seen as "rouges" amongst our kind of lone wolves. History will be able to display  the deeds of anyones' action. This is the mindset of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

I feel blessed to be living the life that I have placed myself. It's not a perfect life; yet, I am content with it. I don't see myself ever getting married or having any children. And, I'm okay with that realization also. I only have the one life to live. So, I will continue to live my life as I see fit. and, with that knowledge of my resolve, I am content. I'll can't worry about what history may ever say about my existence. During the meanwhile, I shall continue to journey on with the rest of my life. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.