Now, let's relate the context of this blog to the mentality of a lone wolf in the workplace. I, personally, do not believe in workplace romances. I see no need to date someone in my personal life and then see them on a daily basis at work. I believe in the saying that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". In a perfect world, I live for the day that I can meet with my special someone at the end of the work day to talk about how our day went at our jobs. But, I don't believe that I would have that same mentality if I worked at the same place with my significant other. Let's just think about this for a second: You live together, you wake up for work together, you get dressed at the same time to be able to head off to work together, you eat breakfast together, you then leave for work together, you then arrive at work together, you may even cross each other throughout the work day, you may end up eating lunch together,you may cross each other some more throughout the rest of the work day, you leave work together, and you arrive home together, you eat dinner together, and you eventually go to bed together in order to be able to go to work together the next day. And, these daily activities would occur every day of the week, for every week of the month, for every month of a year. This is not the mentality of a lone wolf.
I say all of this because, today, I was chatting with a woman that works out of one of the departments that I frequent as part of my daily work duties. We've know each other since I first arrived at that job in 2005. But, I also knew her before I came to that location to work. So, I know her a couple of years before work at that same place. Even though we are of different races, we get along with each just fine. We even used to be on the same softball team. I enjoy just being friends with this woman because I do not believe in workplace dating or romances. Yet, my friend has always threw out "little flirts" as if she was interested in being more than friends. in the past. Plus, she would would attempt to find ways to attempt to interact with me away from work. now, before we worked together, this was not a problem especially while we were on the same softball team. We would hang out together in a platonic friendship. But now, since we are working around each other at the same place, we mainly hang out together in public places. So, today, my friend asked me about why we don't even talk on the phone like we we used to do before when I wasn't working around her. And, I told my friend, without missing a beat, "Cause, I enjoy having my personal life separate from my work life."
The more my ole friend attempted to justify why we should be dating each other, the more uncomfortable I was getting by just being around her; and, I felt that we just needed to keep our friendship strictly on a professional level between us. The ideal of dating a woman that I work with is a definite turnoff for me. I like my "me time" when I get home. I like the ideal of getting in touch with my friends when I feel like contacting them. I like the ideal of not having to speak to anyone when I feel don't feel like it. I really enjoy the peace and quiet times at home. My family members, friends, and coworkers know and respect this one simple fact about me.This is the way of the lone wolf. And, don't get me wrong about my friend. I think she is a very attractive, smart, and wonderful woman. But, regardless of her race, I wouldn't date her even if we were the same race because I just don't date my coworkers. This is the one constant rule that I haven't deviated from since I began working a fulltime job in 1990. If the truth be known, I really do enjoy being a lone wolf.
Epilogue of today's events, my friend and I agreed that it would be better to to keep our interaction with each other strictly professional. This will allow her to pursue a potential relationship with someone else that could recipitate her feelings. I am happy hanging out with current my lady friend, who is also a fan of "casual dating" like I am. We seem to be getting along fine whenever we are hanging out together with no strings attached. And, most importantly, she doesn't work at the same place where work together, she works with her father, which is a definite turn on for me because I am not a fan of workplace romances. And, this is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality...
