The Lone Wolf vs Friends with selfish agendas towards them...

What does a person with a lone wolf mentality do when they are aware of a person that has a selfish agenda towards them?

This is one of the questions that I have been asking myself for many years since I began this life's journey in an attempt to discover what makes a person want to have a lone wolf mentality.  Even up until now, I really don't have an answer to this question. I am happy being single. I love the freedom to do what I want to do, go where I want to go, and be whom I want to be without worrying about affecting a significant other in my life. I am not a relationship type of person; and, I am okay with that fact about myself. Any woman that attempt to change frame of thought about relationships is only going to end their efforts in self heartbreak for them. I am who I am with no apologies, when it comes to my personal views towards relationships.

A person with a lone wolf mentality does not like the feeling of being controlled, of being restricted, and of being domesticated even at the expense of hurting the feelings of another that would like to have a relationship with them. It is futile to attempt to enter into a serious relationship with a person that has a lone wolf mentality, especially if that person is not mutually attracted to them. In fact, a person with an "infatuation" or "crush" on a person with a lone wolf mentality will only be heading towards an awkwardness of friendship, then personal heartache of being rejected as a friend, and eventually isolated from that lone wolf's life all together. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

A person with a lone wolf mentality "only loves whom they may love."  If the object of a lone wolf's affection doesn't feel the same way towards them, that lone wolf will either choose to be in the "friend zone" with that person; or, the lone wolf would just remove himself or herself from that person's life all together. There won't be unnecessary drama from a person with a lone wolf mentality if they are rejected by the object of their affection because that is not our way of being. A person with a lone wolf mentality is not into causing anyone any drama in their life. We treat others as we would like to be treated. All life is sacred to a person with a lone wolf mentality.  And, life is too short to spent being angry, negative, and/or depressed over the things that we cannot control or have. A person with a lone wolf mentality is a wanderer by nature, so we will know when it is time for us as a person to move one to the next episode of our lives. This is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality. This is my way as a person.

A person with a lone wolf mentality feels that it is imperative to be respectable and considerate of others in their personal and professional life. So, when one of a lone wolf's friends unnecessarily  and immaturely confronts another one of lone wolf's friends, that  lone wolf will usually began to distance himself or herself from that person due their selfish agenda towards them. From my experiences, people with selfish agendas usually act without thought of how their actions or behaviour may appear or affect others that they are confronting, which can be problematic to a lone wolf's pack of family and/or close friends. We, as lone wolves, shouldn't have anyone that show a capacity to be jealous or resentful in nature of others in our pack. This is the one exception to a person with a lone wolf mentality: There are times when pack of wolves that are on the same page in life or better than a group of individuals. Those people who claims to be a friend of a lone wolf, who causes drama or static for their own selfish agendas with other friends of the lone wolf, should be immediately removed from that lone wolf's circle of close friends for the safety and well-being of the whole pack. Maintaining the safety and well-being of their family and circle of close friends should be a priority of a person with a lone wolf mentality from those with a selfish agenda towards them.

Do not ever mistaken the friendship and kindness of a person with a lone wolf mentality as being naive to the selfish agendas of another. Awareness of others' selfish agendas usually become immediately known to a lone wolf. A person with a lone wolf mentality only weakness is giving too many people the "benefit of the doubt"with their agendas towards them. In order to maintain a positive way of life with himself or herself, a person with a lone wolf mentality must not allow those with selfish agendas into their inner sanctum of family and close friends. If a person with selfish agendas towards a person with a lone wolf mentality towards them is validated from more than one source, it would best for the lone wolf to limit their personal interactions with that person. This is the mind of a person with a lone wolf mentality.

Lone Wolf vs Workplace Romances

I live by the saying, "One should never attempt to domesticate a lone wolf. It is a waste of time to attempt to do so." If a person happens to domesticate a lone wolf, then that lone wolf would cease being the independent spirit that made them natural and unique in the world. The mentality of a lone wolf is to "voluntarily" choose to end their daily life of solitude in order to be with that special someone that they view to be their compatible soul mate.  And, the older a lone wolf becomes, the more patient (stubborn) they becomes against another person's advances towards them until they have finally came across their better half.

Now, let's relate the context of this blog to the mentality of a lone wolf in the workplace. I, personally, do not believe in workplace romances. I see no need to date someone in my personal life and then see them on a daily basis at work. I believe in the saying that "Absence makes the heart  grow fonder". In a perfect world, I live for the day that I can meet with my special someone at the end of the work day to talk about how our day went at our jobs. But, I don't believe that I would have that same mentality if I worked at the same place with my significant other. Let's just think about this for a second: You live together, you wake up for work together, you get dressed at the same time to be able to head off to work together, you eat breakfast together, you then leave for work together, you then arrive at work together, you may even cross each other throughout the work day, you may end up eating lunch together,you may cross each other some more throughout the rest of the work day, you leave work together, and you arrive home together, you eat dinner together, and you eventually go to bed together in order to be able to go to work together the next day. And, these daily activities would occur every day of the week, for every week of the month, for every month of a year. This is not the mentality of a lone wolf. 

I say all of this because, today, I was chatting with a woman that works out of one of the departments that I frequent as part of my daily work duties. We've know each other since I first arrived at that job in 2005. But, I also knew her before I came to that location to work. So, I know her a couple of years before work at that same place. Even though we are of different races, we get along with each just fine. We even used to be on the same softball team. I enjoy just being friends with this woman because I do not believe in workplace dating or romances. Yet, my friend has always threw out "little flirts"  as if she was interested in being more than friends. in the past. Plus, she would would attempt to find ways to attempt to interact with me away from work. now, before we worked together, this was not a problem especially while we were on the same softball team. We would hang out together in a platonic friendship. But now, since we are working around each other at the same place, we mainly hang out together in public places. So, today, my friend asked me about why we don't even talk on the phone like we we used to do before when I wasn't working around her. And, I told my friend, without missing a beat, "Cause, I enjoy having my personal life separate from my work life." 

The more my ole friend attempted to justify why we should be dating each other, the more uncomfortable I was getting by just being around her; and, I felt that we just needed to keep our friendship strictly on a professional level between us. The ideal of dating a woman that I work with is a definite turnoff for me. I like my "me time" when I get home. I like the ideal of getting in touch with my friends when I feel like contacting them. I like the ideal of not having to speak to anyone when I feel don't feel like it. I really enjoy the peace and quiet times at home. My family members, friends, and coworkers know and respect this one simple fact about me.This is the way of the lone wolf. And, don't get me wrong about my friend. I think she is a very attractive, smart, and wonderful woman. But, regardless of her race, I wouldn't date her even if we were the same race because I just don't date my coworkers. This is the one constant rule that I haven't deviated from since I began working a fulltime job in 1990. If the truth be known, I really do enjoy being a lone wolf. 

Epilogue of today's events, my friend and I agreed that it would be better to to keep our interaction with each other strictly professional. This will allow her to pursue a potential relationship with someone else that could recipitate her feelings. I am happy hanging out with current my lady friend, who is also a fan of "casual dating" like I am. We seem to be getting along fine whenever we are hanging out together with no strings attached. And, most importantly, she doesn't work at the same place where work together, she works with her father, which is a definite turn on for me because I am not a fan of workplace romances. And, this is the way of a person with a lone wolf mentality...